Embarrassed about looks, anyone?

[MyWillow]

Ah @Sietz we are a funny collection of beings. But you’re alright eh :hug:

 

[piratelady]

I always felt a bit stupid doing it because I once got a clerk that judged me for being too skinny - not my fault, just how I was built when I was younger.

Yeah, you definitely need a better clerk. I guess there are good and bad people in ever occupation. That's unfortunate that you had someone treat you like that, it's just rude really.

I really despise your ex. You're not disgusting at all, hope you know that.

I do too. Although, I will say, I didn't start despising him until recently. I know I'm not disgusting now. Between that personal shopper and a few healthy people in my life now giving me positive feedback, including my husband, I'm starting to let go of that one. Starting to. It will take more time. I do still want to lose weight, but now more for health reasons.

It’s like I consciously put all that to one side to survive. But maybe it’s not the real me.

My therapist told me that I had been doing this for years. And that when life starts to calm down, all that that stuff I packed away was going to start popping out. I don't think it's a matter of the "real me" or not, but more like the real me had a lot of things in her pockets and purse that need to be dealt with. That was a bad attempt at a clothing metaphor lol

 

[MyWillow]

Lol love a good metaphor;)

 

[ILoveLife]

Ah @Sietz we are a funny collection of beings. But you’re alright eh :hug:

Aha, you are too :hug:

positive feedback

So important.
My friend told me yesterday "You know you're cool right?", I didn't believe him but it was nice to hear.:rolleyes::hilarious:

 

[bumbles]

I struggle with this a lot too.
A lot of my sexual trauma was either directly or hinted at having to do with my looks.
Now, I am super self conscious, thinking that I am totally unwanted because I'm hideous or something, and I have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that it probably has more to do with me making myself unavailable and unapproachable due to fear.