Not to worry. This is very normal. Anyone who has been to therapy will have empathy here.
Depending on levels and types of childhood trauma we unwittingly connect to our therapist the way we should have connected to a parent during the early years. We are all the ages we have ever been so as an adult we struggle with the "I'm a grown person - why am I attached like this" but our younger selves who experienced neglect, abuse, etc are clinging on for dear life to this wonderful caring person who listens. Sometimes our adult selves even feel embarrassed or ashamed about our needs. Fighting them will increase them.
My therapist, whom I adore, always tells me the trick is to accept the feelings of embarrassment/shame from the adult part and release. Then she reminds me that it is okay to hug my younger self and approve of her attachment and the healing that will come from it. The long term goal is for your adult self to care for the little one inside of you but depending on the level of childhood trauma it could take months or years.
A good therapist (it sounds like yours is a good one) will care for you through it and when she feels you (and your inner little one) are ready she will help you learn how to feel less attached.
I believe most therapists assume clients recovering from childhood trauma experience these feelings, so accept yourself, (if she's any good she already does) feel the emotions of discomfort and release them. You are healing old relationships through a new beautiful one - it just feels a bit strange because different pieces of yourself are in different states of emotional maturity.
Much love.:inlove:
