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He comes home grouchy and impatient complaining about the job not paying enough to cover even gas. He complains about how people are terrible drivers. He says all this in the same voice and manner as his father...one of my abusers. I know in my rational mind he isn't his father...he wasn't around his father much growing up, and he would never hit or hurt me like his father, but his mannerisms and voice are a trigger. The 23 year old I was when the abuse started stiffens up...same age my son is now. I know times are hard and it is difficult to find a decent job and near impossible to find one with health insurance thanks to Obamacare. I understand how difficult it is to make ends meet. I just don't know what to do with the irrational fear at times and I just want the flashbacks to stop. I raised this man to be gentle and kind, which he is. He is NOT his father.