Extroadinarily sad.

[Teasel]

So I dont even know where to start. I'm feeling so sad about this though I dont knowest your call it. Inability to connect with people? Fearing I'm unlikeable? Lack of social skills? Fear of people? I'm really frightened of talking about this but the need to do it is overwhelming. I feel like a young kid just now.

Ok that'll do to start. ?

 

[Abstract]

Well done to you! ? Starting speaking is the first big and important step. And shows you can speak. ;) Young you o or more grown up you

What about taking each of those points and saying a little more about each - when you find the breath. You certainly have social skills on here. And distrust of people is a verry you are not alone thing.

 

[Tinyflame]

Aw @berlinda , picking it apart is good, but remember too some 'moments' always feel more raw than others, too.

Xox and good for you to post. :hug:

 

[frogthroat]

You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. It comes and goes though doesn't it? It's weird. You're not as weird as you think.

 

[ladee]

Great start @berlinda, we are listening, and take your time. I have had many issues thru my life of feeling no one is listening so why bother. But found, here especially, I am heard.

Break it down how it makes sense to you. That's what matters most.

 

[Teasel]

Thanks all, that was so difficult.. am making myself reply at least this little hit cause my instinct is to run away and I wanna nudge that a little.

Tired & numb, hopefully sleep soon

 

[Abstract]

Hi @berlinda
Sending you much encouragement to do so. Do understand a lot of aspects of how hard it can be to "speak". Feel free to brainstorm here when you and if you feel able. ?

 

[ILoveLife]

Sending hugs berlinda :hug:

I feel the same, it can be exhausting.
Lots of love your way.

 

[Friday]

I'm really frightened of talking about this

Can you turn it around?

Instead of talking about what you’re sad about, and struggling with... what’s the fun/happy that you’re wanting? (Because, clearly, you’re not going to be sad about not having terrible things that make you miserable in your life. You want something good, yes? Something fun? Something happy? Can you talk about that?)

Want is an interesting word. It means we don’t have something, (we want for it) but at the same time desire it.

So... ideal world. No symptoms or problems or time / work / luck needed. What is it you desire? Sky is the limit, and nothing is too silly, too profound, too unreasonable, or out of bounds.

 

[ILoveLife]

What is it you desire?

I want babies and puppies and kittens.
(I'm biologically clocking.)
I want time travel and hoover boards.

 

[Teasel]

Love, family, friends and to be living.

I'll think over your post but on the whole thinking about these things I want sends me to the same place of hurt.

 

[Wendell_R]

Fearing I'm unlikeable? Lack of social skills? Fear of people?

I remember that you gave me a hug a week or so ago, and that really helped me navigate the past week. (((Hugs))) for you, thank you for reaching out, and I value you the way you are. I have the same fears.