Death Father - Pneumonia / Friend - Murdered

[Kiril]

So, several things have happened to me lately.

My father, in January died of Pneumonia.

A friend of mine, one I kept in sporadic contact with, was murdered in March.

My health has got worse since then.

 

[Sammyiam]

I am so sorry you have had two deaths so close to each other, it takes it out of you.
I hope your health improves.

Sammy

 

[Kiril]

I should explain more.

My father was ill with dementia for a few, years, he was very ill. He passed on after being hospitalized and developing pneumonia. His Dengue Fever re-occurred, that contributed greatly to his death.

My friend, he had some problems but was getting his life back. He was attacked when he went for a walk during a house party. A stranger attacked him and beat him into a coma, one which he didn't survive and stole his wallet.

 

[Deleted member 29899]

I'm sorry you've had these losses Kiril. I almost feel like you're waiting for more responses from people here.....

We've all been through a lot of terrible death here. All the deaths that have happened to me have been tragic, unexpected and they were too young to die.

 

[Kiril]

Thank you for your condolences.

My father was 79, he had a long life that could have ended on many occasions. His life was completed. I had grieved a lot before his death.

My friend, on the other hand. That was far more sudden and untimely.

I sort've am waiting for responses. I felt I needed to spread the word, or something.

 

[ghotiff]

I've felt that kind of grief where you just don't know what to do with the information.

I feel for you, but I'm not sure what I can say that would be helpful other than I care, and a reminder to be gentle with yourself.

 

[Deleted member 29899]

If you still feel like you're sort of waiting for responses you have to reword the title of your thread as a question or something. Peak people's interest or ask for advice or something.

 

[Kiril]

An update.

The murderer of my friend has been found guilty and imprisoned. It was a case of mistaken identity.

The news article described the attack in detail and showed pictures of him in hospital.

I am feeling incredibly ill.

 

[barefoot]

I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced two sad losses so close together. I had two bereavements at the start of the year - both friends. Neither were murdered - one had an accident, the other was ill but we didn't know - but they were both big shocks and both their deaths had a huge impact on me. And the impact was definitely intensified because they died only one week apart.

I know the feeling of having the information/knowledge/feeling and not knowing what to do with it but feeling like you have to somehow do something. I found it a very frustrating, upsetting, confusing and vulnerable place to be. And the court case has probably stirred up a lot of feelings for you again, so that it maybe feels very raw again at the moment.

Take care of yourself.

 

[Kiril]

Thank you, barefoot.

It just seemed to explode today, all this new information in my face, with no control.

It's made me feel very raw, yes.

 

[SabrinaB]

I have experienced loss from illness and sudden death, but never murder. I imagine that creates inner turmoil with swirling emotions and reactions. So sorry you've had to endure this stress on top of everyday challenges.

How are you doing today?

 

[Deleted member 29899]

Oh my gosh Kiril, what a tragedy.