Sufferer Feeling really low lately - death / mva

[Palmetto82]

I have been going through a real rough time lately and don’t know where to turn or what to do anymore.

 

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@Palmetto82 You are turning to the right place by posting here. You are not alone.

I’m so sorry you are having a rough time.

Feel free to share your feelings here. We are here for you.

 

[Sanctuary]

Just to let you know ,I feel the same .
Searching for answers , searching for help to help myself
What comforting words would i say to myself? So i say them to you
" Its going to be alright, This too shall pass.Just Hold on."

 

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@Sanctuary beautifully written.

I recently watched a music video called Hold On. Your words made me think of it and it fits perfectly. It is a new song to help raise awareness for depression.

 

[Palmetto82]

Thank you. This time of the year is really tough for me because my mom was killed January 8, 2011 and with the holidays and her birthday November 21st I’m just feeling really low plus I feel my wife doesn’t care about me and that she cares more about her friends then me. I’ve been waking up almost everyday sweating and when I finally wake up in the morning I feel my life is worthless after the nightmares that I have.

 

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@Palmetto82 Nightmares are no fun. I am so sorry.

If your wife is like my husband... I bet she cares a lot more than you know. My husband can tell when I’m struggling and sometimes he does spend time with his friends to give me space. Sometimes I know he needs the space too because he does care so much and can’t fix it.

Have you tried talking to her about it? I know it is hard.

 

[Palmetto82]

@Palmetto82 Nightmares are no fun. I am so sorry.

If your wife is like my hu...

Not really because I’m not sure how to.

 

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Does she know about the nightmares?

You could let her know you had a bad night and that you would love to spend some time with her. It could start the conversation.

Just little steps.

 

[Palmetto82]

Does she know about the nightmares?

You could let her know you had a bad night and that you wou...

She does but too be honest she is a very judgmental person and has to have the last say in everything.

 

[Akhos]

@Palmetto82 - welcome, you have come to the right place.

This is a good and safe place where you can safely express yourself. Its tough going through things like that alone, especially when the people you imagine should be supporting you dont. I have the same type of relationship with my wife and it makes expressing yourself very difficult because you are trying to sort yourself out as well as not upsetting the wife or feeling judged and made worse.

What kind of nightmares are you having? Have you managed to actually tell the wife how much you are hurting? I had to write mine a letter as she gets all defensive otherwise and thinks Im attacking her. It helped to an extent. Maybe worth a shot?

 

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Writing a letter is a great idea.

 

[Palmetto82]

I actually have written a letter to her about my feelings but like a teacher does she had a response to everything in a red pen arguing with my statements. My nightmares mainly consist of my mom but they also consist of my wife cheating on me to her spending all her time with her friends over me. I can remember the night my dad knocked on my door to tell me that my mom and aunt had been killed and my thoughts on that are exactly how everything unfolded just like it happened yesterday. After he told me we went to the hospital to view her and collect her belongings. After we left I had to go tell my grandparents that two of their daughters had been killed. Hardest day of my life and the worse part of that story is that earlier in the day they both threw us a baby shower for my son who was born 6 weeks after they were killed so my mom never got to meet him.