Relationship Feeling Really Sad And Alone.

[Stacey85]

I'm sure he is too, it's probably just different.

Here I sit, while he's passed out cold from the Ambien the doc prescribed so he can sleep at all, trying to find something to make me feel better. I'm learning that PTSD effects not just the person who has it, but those around them. I feel like I shouldn't feel bad for myself, but I feel like although the deployment has ended, I'm still here alone emotionally.

We've been together over 4 years, and have known each other our entire lives, but living the military lifestyle, we've hardly had any time together at all. I really mean that, he had 9 months between deployments, and less if you count the training in that time. We've actually seen each other about a year and a half of those 4+ years together.

I feel like I'm losing my best friend, and myself.

I have so much resentment because he has not been home (not toward him, he was doing it duty, but in general) I've been raising all our kids alone.

Now he's finally home, but the deployment hasn't ended. Now I know what they mean when they say that. He still lives it every day.

It's going to get better, right??

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[Toria]

Hi Stacey, you're not the only one. My husband was married previously and stationed in Germany. He once added up how long he was at home and it was something like nine months in an eight year marriage. Personally I'd say really well done for getting through the military lifestyle part - it's not something I had to do and I think it takes a very strong person to do it. Now you're on to phase two and instead of having the support of the "Army Wives" (sorry - no offence! ;)) around you, you now have the support of the people on here. (hugs)

 

[wife of]

Hi Stacey, so he's on meds and I presume is getting therapy as well as meds don't work on there own.Things won't get better immediatly but with the right treatments there is no reason to think things won't improve.

The imprortant thing to cling to right now is that if he is in treatment then you are both doing all you can to prevent things becoming any worse.

You will adjust, both of you.

You will change, both of you.

You can, with the right help, get stronger, both as individuals coping with ptsd and as a couple coping with ptsd.

You possibly feel that you no longer have your forces community to turn to, there are lots of us here.

For myself I may be a UK ex-army wife but I 100% understand how the isolation feels so unfair after you've done your deployment time.

Take the times when the drugs are working on him to help him sleep and thus heal as your time to be you, take up a hobby or just even use the time to make your calls to family and friends without having to watch what you say!!!

Chin up hunny and soldier on,you can do this.x

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[Sgeethi012]

I can understand how lonely and sad you are.You can be proud of yourself because you are raising your children alone.You have them I think that is a good point to be happy.