General Feelings Of Anger After Session

[Suzetig]

Are you seeing a therapist just now? I don't mean your friend, but someone you pay to be your therapist and help you process this stuff? It's just you asked about being angry after a session, but you weren't in a session with him - he was seeing you as a friend. I think friend relationships can leave us with all sorts of feelings, especially if they start getting in to stuff that's pretty sensitive.

And yes, therapy can do that too but the boundaries of a therapeutic relationship are different for a reason, because it needs to be safe enough for us to process all of those feelings. I'd be keeping a good wall between my therapy and my friendships because friends can't unknow what they know about me and I might regret them knowing so much later on.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Are you seeing a therapist just now? I don't mean your friend, but someone you pay to be your therapist...

I am seeing therapy and She lets me do 90 percent of talking and usually feel more relaxed and better at solving problems after wards.

A guy I know who is a psychiatrist saw him and asked him about PTSD. Told him my situation. He was doing the majority of talking and asking questions. He helped a ton but was shocked at how deep he dug in a 10 minute time frame. Was more intense than the therapy I have been seeing. Because of what he asked and made me think I felt angry and anxiety rest of day.

Only people to me who cross boundaries are uneducated people and those who listen to Tony Robbins

 

[EveHarrington]

So he kept saying she's an adult/ big girl and she will be fine. That struck a huge chord with me o...

Wow. I am completely in shock as to how you treat this woman! She is reacting to trauma! She DOES have the mentality and mindset of an adult, rather you simply do not understand what it's like to be a traumatized adult.

 

[EveHarrington]

I am seeing therapy and She lets me do 90 percent of talking and usually feel more relaxed and bett...

Your knowledge of boundaries is woefully lacking too.

The theme I see in all of your posts is that you know what's best and you know what's right. I think this attitude will keep you locked in a certain mind frame that will prevent you from healing and growing.

And in one fell swoop you insulted everyone on this forum with your boundary comment.

 

[Suzetig]

Your comment on boundaries explains why you can't see that your friend, in using his psychiatric knowledge to discuss your situation, breached a significant boundary - leaving you with feelings that are hard for you to manage. That you referred to your time with your friend as "a session" suggests you were possibly not sure about the nature what happened either.

Some of the most hurtful breaches of boundaries have come at the hands of highly educated, knowledgable people who just got it wrong.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Your comment on boundaries explains why you can't see that your friend, in using his psychiatric knowle...

Because I don't have PTSD doesn't mean I haven't been hurt before.

I trust a psychiatrist a lot more on telling me what's going on than someone getting a undergraduate degree in psych or someone reading Tony Robbin books.

 

[Joseph King]

Because I don't have PTSD doesn't mean I haven't been hurt before.

I trust a psychiatrist a lot m...

Psychiatrists have drug representatives......

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Psychiatrists have drug representatives......

He understands PTSD better than anyone else I know.

 

[joeylittle]

@Statsattack - all people are saying is that he's not allowed to be your doctor. But since he was effective, you should ask him for referrals to docs he knows that work in a similar style to him. Birds of a feather flock together, he's likely to have good referrals.

Not sure why you're obsessed with Tony Robbins.

 

[Rumors]

So who has ptsd? I guess I am confused. Who is the "she" you are referring to in your post that has been raped? Is there someone close to you that listens to Tony Robbins and it makes you not like him? I know just enough about him to know that he is just a positive guy... Not sure where the dislike for him comes in to play but certainly he likely has nothing to do with where you are coming from right now.
I certainly don't think seeing a guy you work out with at the local club is a good idea if you are "friends." However, if you just go to the same club and happen to be there at the same times then I think it is ok. If you go hang for a beer afterwards then no. Ask for a referral. You said "because I don't have ptsd don't mean I haven't been hurt before." Why are you talking to someone about ptsd then?? Clearly you are looking for answers. Please go find someone who can help. Right now it seems like you are trying to hit a moving target and I think you should narrow the target down.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

This happens to me, too. I am angry at myself when it happens for letting someone else in. I am terribly vulnerable and always end up getting hurt while they dance off into the sunset with their lives.