Relationship Finding A Space For Me... A Support Group Etc

[nerraw]

Hey,
I don't have time to explain everything right now, I'm making dinner... trying to prepare for my son's birthday tomorrow etc etc.... I would like to say that I have appreciated quite a lot of the content on the forum here so far... I intend to stick around and read / post more.

My problem right here, right now however is that I need support with this. My partner has PTSD and has started some fairly intense therapy, (within the last month) which seems to have shaken everything to its foundation.

The weekend before last she came home and told me that she didn't want to be with me anymore, then she decided that she did again by the end of the weekend... she will not talk to me about basic relationship stuff and I am having to really be the rock here and stand still while the storm rages above us. Thing is I need some support with it, I need to know that families do get through this and learn to live with it in a healthy way. I want to be able to sit with a group of people who know what I'm talking about when I say my partner is unavailable and everything is my fault again!

Or maybe it is?

Anyhow, thanks for reading,.... just needed to share that with someone out there in the world who might understand, cause no one else around me does other than professionals, and they aren't my friends, nor should they be!

cheers

nw

 

[Mockingbird13]

Hi N.W.

I am fairly new to this site and have already found a tremendous amount of support - but the biggest thing that I have found it that "I'm not going crazy" This is not my fault" and We are not alone" !

Without going to deep imto my story I can completely relate to what you are going through. I was completly blindsided when he came home one day and told me he didnt love me anymore and could not handle any of the responsibilites anymore and just left.

It has been an emotional roller coaster for myself and our daughter. Many of our friends that are couples feel a bit awkward asking just me out anymore I mean c'mon a 3rd wheel. Plus none of them truly understand what PTSD is all about.

I have done tons of reading on my own, and like you have found that only the counsler that I go to, plus a support group for carers are the only ones that understand. I am beginning to make friends within that group and it does help alot to hear that we go through many of the same things, and what they do to get through.

Be strong for your son - Im sure he needs you now more than ever - Take care of yourself (easier said than done- but try). Remember that neither one of you asked for PTSD, it invaded your lives.Remember that she may not be herself because she is dealing with so much in her head right now. Don't take things too personaly (This is a hard one for me, and Im still working on this one).But remember, you're no good to anyone unless you take care of yourself.

Welcome Friend !