Poll For those with a significant other, when did you tell them about your ptsd?

[Teasel]

Didn't know I had ptsd till 14 years after I met him. Approx.

 

[Abstract]

@AliciaEff Thanks. We were married about 6 years before he knew I had any mental health issues. I didn't know about the PTSD until much later. During those first years I was having therapy for an eating disorder then later that and depression without him knowing about them or the therapy. Then I had a proper breakdown and he didn't really ask anything or comment. It was pretty evident I was not a functioning human being at that point. My depression was severe, on the psychotic end of the spectrum. He knew I was having therapy for the first time then. I started understanding the dissociation I experienced and the PTSD reared up badly and was diagnosed. That was about 16 years into the marriage. Its almost 8 years later now. I had to acknowledge past trauma then too. I went to a clinic dealing with psychological trauma. Didn't let him know I was having therapy or the diagnoses. Was jumping a mile high for everything, unable to sleep for more than an hour, sleeping on the sofa with the lights on etc so it shows he doesn't ask too many questions. I did start speaking about past stuff to him like depression, eating disorders and related therapy.

I am used to dealing with things on my own, don't easily trust others with personal information and find therapy horribly counter intuitive. I know speaking about this with him will open up all this stuff and all sorts will come out but also know I'm not being fair by staying silent. Its a bit selfish which is not my usual personality.

 

[CopperDeer]

I was diagnosed after we we got together, so I told him the day I recieved my diagnosis.

I would wait until after establishing some sort of trust.