General Found The Man Who Molested My Daughter.

[Jim]

Thank you Cowgirl, much appreciated. Though believe you misunderstand the nature of my involvement here. I am not speaking for my daughter. She and the (so far) 5 others who have agreed to write statments or testify are the ones pressing charges. We as parents are doing other things. Such as. I have contacts which are helpful. My brother is a higher official in the Church, and he assisted us (unofficially) to find the man, and is continuing to give us some general advice. The solicitor the kids have hired is a longtime friend of myself, and his firm has done other clergy abuse cases previously. I am contributing a large portion of his fee. Currently we are looking for other victims. That is the main work of the parents at the moment, to find more parents and kids. The priest in question is older so there may very well be hundreds. Just received an email this morning from a boy in my daughter's class, also abused and also willing to participate. So. No. I am not doing any actual legal aspects. I cannot.

My question here was not a legal one. Rather it is was - am I crossing a boundary with my daughter, as a PTSD sufferer. Legal advice, I have lots of that. No worries.

Jim.

 

[anthony]

Question. Are we crossing a boundary of our daughters by being involved? All opinions welcome. She is 24 years old.

Jim.

As a parent myself, I would say no. If I wasn't a parent I would likely be on the other end, in that it being her decision. I guess one of those things you could only understand when you have a child, that bond is stronger than just about anything else, and you will go to the end of the earth in order to protect them.

So knowing what I know now.... I personally think it is the right thing to do. Evie made her choice by stating she wants no further part in it, which is a good active decision on her behalf, but must obviously respect your decision as parents to want justice for an act committed against her, which I would as a parent myself.

Bloody well done to you and Kathy for this Jim.... and all the other parents for coming in with you. A job well done mate. Congratulations!

 

[Murphy's Law]

Congrats on your untiring efforts. Although I am not a parent I would say its our responsability to protect the children he might come in contact with. Disgusting that he can still be allowed to preach.
We had a big blow up in Newfoundland Canada with priests. the scale was huge. One good thing about prosicution, at least to my humble knowledge, is that they would then be a registered sex offender. then no more being around kids.

on another side, I can understand not wanting to be dragged through it. Again. Anyway to protect her picture or name I would use. If its a lesser charge, so what, they still have to register as sexual offender and cant hurt anyone else.

 

[Jim]

Murphy, you are speaking of the Mount Cashel Orphanage? I am a proud Newfoundlander. ;-) Just recently moved overseas as part of my retirement. My children are still in Newfoundland, excepting my daughter who lives with us currently.

 

[Murphy's Law]

Yes, my son, I am. It is such a small world. If that is where this happened, I think there are several govt funds now to help support the suffers from Mount Cashel

I proudly hail from the rock as well. Small village close to trinity bay. Moved to NB for docs and better technology.

 

[Jim]

Pressed reply too soon. Thank you Anthony for the compliments. Much appreciated and will tell Kathleen you think so too. She will be pleased. Agreed, there are some things one feels as a parent that are impossible to ignore. Thank you for the encouragement.

And. Received an email from Evie (I am currently away from home on business) which answers the question asked here. She is happy we wish to be involved. Takes it the right way, thankfully. Says it shows we care. For herself - she is anxious about it and needs time. But thanks us for being concerned. So. Feel far better hearing that. :-)

Thanks all.

Jim.

 

[Jim]

Yes, my son, I am. I proudly hail from the rock as well. Small village close to trinity bay. Moved to NB for docs and better technology.

Very small world indeed! Lived in the Trinity Bay area myself for a time, though originally from Fogo Island. Wife is a townie. ;-) Hails from St. John's. My sons are in Gander and Stephenville. Too bad you had to leave the rock but understandable. My daughter misses it terribly but needs to live with us for now.

Jim.

 

[Murphy's Law]

Oh I miss it too. I would tell you what village but they might think i`m using bad language. lol. That might tip you off to it. I do try to get back for regatta each year.

Good luck to you, and your family. I hope you all find peace in this.
Jill

 

[Jim]

Dildo! ;-)

Oh. And thank you. Appreciated. :-)

Jim.

 

[Murphy's Law]

:-) you got it

 

[Jim]

i send you the warmest hug i can give you and your doughter
i feel for you all
and feel free here to ask us anything here
we are a lot of victims am sad to say
but we all in here wishes you the best of luck!

Thank you Tessan, much appreciated for the wishes. Missed your post before. Getting old I reckon. ;-)

Jim.

 

[Nicolette]

Thank you Tessan, much appreciated for the wishes. Missed your post before. Getting old I reckon. ;-)

Nope, sorry Jim - it's not a case of getting old! As Tessan is still in moderation the post was before yours but as it wasn't approved at the stage you posted you couldn't see it until afterwards when I approved it.