Friendless And In Need Of Help

[Grama-Herc]

Audrey, thanks for the imput. Nice to know that other people protect their "Space" like I do. The things we do to survive can someimes appear rude to people who do not understand, I agree. I decided long ago that I could not afford the emotional expense it costs to try to get people to understand. I explain to the best of my ability 1 time and if they don't get it and don't respect my space then (pardon me, but) screw em! My mental stability is the most important job I have and plan on doing it tho the best of my ability. Glad you feel the same. Helps to not be alone doesn't it Herc

 

[Deleted member 487]

I can't say much right now because I don't know what to say. But I am willing to be open mninded and be your cyber-friend, if you want!

 

[Grama-Herc]

Well, Jack, thanx for the offer of cuber-friend. We all need those. We all need someone to talk to at times, right. Now, all I need is someone who can just explain how to be and how to have a live friend and I'll be fine. Any suggestions????????????????????

 

[Deleted member 487]

Just be nice, be friendly, don't be nosy, and don't be pushy. Most important is be yourself.

You won't get a lot of friends right away, but a few good places to start is go to church. If that ain't you cup of tea, the museum might use a volunteer once in a while. ANYTHING is usually welcome there. Like an hour each week. They'd be grateful and it puts you in good light. Or the library. Go read a few books. See if there are any groups that discuss books. If not, pick an idea and start a group at the library. Like discussing the real-life vs. sci-fi technology we now have. Something.

Another good way is to get a few garbage bags and go pick up litter out of the park. People like that a lot. They see you doing that and there's apt to be at least one or two people telling you how much they appreciate it.


Those are good for a start!

 

[Grama-Herc]

Jack.
Good suggestions and while I am sure they would work I am just going to have to develope my own sources. It is difficult to make or have friends when you are literally scared of people and going outside. Agoraphobia is a real downer when it comes to making, having and keeping friends. They think you are a snob cuz you won't go places with them. Then if you set a date and you cancell due to sheer panic and terror they think you are a bitch. So I guess you and the rest of the folks in the forum will just have to be my friends. Hope you don't mind. I'm kinda nice and I have a very unique sense of humor(nothing twisted or anything like that), I guess you could say I have a very dry sense of humor and love to tease and joke. Just ask Marlene. She met me. We spent an afternoon together one Saturday. We live very close to eachother. Anyway, thanks! I look forward to more posts and maybe even a private message or 2 Herc