Frustrated

[Cannottakethis]

My primary T and psychiatrist have been doing my Sheppard Pratt paperwork, which apparently is extensive, and there are things I need to fill out myself as well. I called Thursday to follow up and she called today, Saturday and my ringer was off because I was sleeping and I missed the call. :sleep:

By the time I called back it was over an hour later, and she didn't answer so I left a message that I could come whenever to do the paperwork, even if I have to miss my current outpatient program which is really like a bandaid anyway till I can go inpatient. Now I'm so frustrated and anxious that o missed the call and don't know when I am going to go to see which person. My T said my pdoc would need to talk to me about current symptoms bc I haven't seen them in 2 months. I told her to call the place I'm going and speak to my team there. I feel like I'm rambling and nobody cares or understands. The last post I made not one person responded to but I quoted someone incorrectly in a response and everybody noticed that! I am not feeling very supported on this site.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

The last post I made not one person responded to but I quoted someone incorrectly in a response and everybody noticed that! I am not feeling very supported on this site.

How can we best support you?

I dont know anything about inpatient, Ive never been inpatient.

A missed call, its late Saturday. Id wait for a call and call back on Monday morning if you havent gotten a call back.

 

[Holdingontohope]

I am sorry you are not feeling very supported on this site. Maybe you last post was just missed somehow? I know there are lots of posts I miss because I'm not on all the time, or its in a section I don't usually look at. I don'the think it was intentional, not on my part at least.

Try not to be too hard on yourself about missing the call. Hopefully your T will return your call in a timely manner. I wish I could offer more advice, but I don'the know anything about Shepherd Pratt or the paperwork associated with it. Hopefully someone who has some experience with it will respond. I just wanted you to know that there are people who care.

 

[BOAG]

The only inpatient I've done was an involuntary commitment, so I am not at all familiar with all the paperwork and exactly what is involved.

Are you waiting to hear when you are to be admitted? Do you feel like things will be delayed because you missed the phone call? Or is everything still up in the air and that is what is frustrating?

 

[Justmehere]

The process to get into and do specialized inpatient programs is super stressful.

Be sure to keep up with your outpatient program. If you start skipping it, it won't help the process much, and could backfire for getting into Sheppard Pratt.

Doing the outpatient work may not be enough, but it will pay off greatly for the impatient work.

Your doc will need to talk to you and not just your treatment team to do the paperwork. That's normal. It's Saturday, so even if they did do it today, nothing would be processed by Sheppard Pratt until Monday. Plan on it taking 3-7 days for your team to get all the paperwork to Sheppard Pratt *and* for Sheppard Pratt to process the paperwork and set an admission date.

Use the time to invest in the outpatient work as prep work for what you will do at SP and things will go a lot better.

Your previous post asked for info specifically about Shepprd Pratt. Not many people get the opportunity to go to a program like Shepard Pratt, and this is an international forum, so the percentage of people here who have gone is likely even lower. For those that have done that specific program and would have the info to be able to reply in the manner you requested, they may not have replied so because sharing they went to specific treatment facility and giving info about that specific place might feel too revealing to do online. This is more likely the reason for the lack of responses on the previous post asking for info about Sheppard Pratt than a lack of desire to be supportive.

It does show a sign of commitment to help and get things done quickly that your doc took time out of their weekend to call. I hope they will call back soon.

Hang in there! :hug:

 

[aut555]

@Justmehere says quite correctly, a lot of us have no experience with this but we wish you success with this program. Anything new is scary challenging and you feel distraught about it initially, but soon that will past as soon as you know what to expect.

 

[Joan]

I did an inpatient stay for 4 months a few years ago. I was in such a bad state that I do not remember much about the process of getting in....but i do remember what seemed like an eternal interview on the phone with the facility.
As others have said...try to keep up with out patient program... that demonstrates to an inpatient program that you are trying. I know that for me the prospect of going away for a while was terrifying...all that fear makes other things really loom large. To those of us in the midst Saturday and Sunday are just another day, but those in the professional world work on a little different schedule.Try to use anything you have learned in outpatient to calm, distract, soothe yourself.
Even if you were frustrated before and felt lack of support...kudos for trying again. I hope that come monday you are able to resolve some of this.

 

[Friday]

When I get frustrated with things that are outside of my ability to control / affect the outcome, I generally do a pragmatism-check.

- The phone-call wasn't the last step in this process, so it hasn't really delayed anything. Being the weekend underscores this, even more. So instead of making some appointments today, and some on Monday, you'll be making all of them on Monday. In fact, since you now know you'll need current symptoms listed by a provider / your PDoc specifically, that gives you a really good heads up, as you can speak to your IOP team on Monday / get their list, before phoning your PDoc.

- If I feel like I'm rambling, that's also a good mental note; to start working on being concise & direct, and perhaps start creating some point-lists. The rambling may be outside of my ability to control, but I can start working on getting control in that area. Conversely, if I'm clearly not rambling, whenI take a step back and look at what's going on? Why do I feel that way? (For myself, no matter how brief and to the point I am, if I'm covering 10,000,000 topics? I feel like I'm rambling, when I'm actually overwhelmed. That realization lets me kick some coping mechanisms into play I wouldn't be, otherwise. Same token, if I'm talking about things that are new/difficult/usually something I hide/don't talk about? I'll feel like I'm rambling, as an avoidance technique. An excuse to shut up. Nope! Okay. I'm not rambling, I'm "just" uncomfortable. Which also has different coping mechanisms to employ..)

- Nobody cares or understands? May be true, or I may need to challenge that. If it's true / that's outside of my ability to control, but my reaction to it is something that's inside my ability to control / do something about. If not true? To challenge that thought, I'd look to evidence contrary to my feelings: like having. T, PDoc, IOP team... All working hard for me, and other areas that might contradict what I'm feeling. To do that / I'd also check out the cognitive distortions list, and look at my usual suspects, and see if any of them are in play. Lastly, I tend to look at why I might be feeling something, true or untrue. For myself, there's generally hopes/fears/stress in that answer. When I look beyond what I'm feeling, to why I might be feeling it? That gives me something to work with.

- When no one responds to a post I've made? I look at the logical reasons that might be... As outlined above really well by @Justmehere. :) 99 times out of 100, there's a totally logical reason for it, instead of the emotional (You suck. Everyone hates you.) reason that is my knee-jerk.

 

[Cannottakethis]

Thank you for responding.
I've been feeling so lost.
She actually did call me back and I'm going to see her on Tuesday to get the paperwork I have to fill out, which sounds like it's a lot of demographic stuff (address, insurance, all of my dr's and their info).
@Joan did you go to SP or somewhere else. This seems like an inordinate amount of work but I guess they really want to do their due diligence.
@BOAG I'm not patient in normal circumstances and my depression and anxiety are through the roof these days. I'm not good at dealing with uncertainty. i just want to know and go.

 

[Cannottakethis]

@Friday, thank you for the breakdown. I live in emotional mind and don't always see logic till it's presented as such. I needed that.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

:hug: ((( @Shells ))):hug:
Here are some "comfort hugs"!just in case you might want or need one or two.

I am sorry for the "impersonal" notiicing of an incorrect quote. Probably noticed by a moderator who may not even have read your post. That's their "job" and I want to assure you that the VAST MAJORITY of members here care deeply about the CONTENT of your post.

I, for one, DO CARE, and I DO hope that you will be able to be in touch with your T soon! Don't give up, and keep hope alive in ANY WAY YOU CAN!!!

 

[Justmehere]

Shells, that's great you got an appointment for Tuesday!

For the specalized inpatient program that I did, it did take quite a bit of work ahead of time to get in and get everything set up. I called and for all the details about other programs too, and it's all normal and common for specialized programs that have their stuff together.

It's kind of a bind because usually people are struggling a lot with day to day life and that's why they need to go... but to get there, more work has to be done.

For me, it was worth it.