Relationship Funeral And Now No Contact... Is He Done?

[Nico]

I'm so sorry @Sabrina0712. I think you should seek out a therapist who specializes in relationships and PTSD. You are hurting really bad and you need someone outside of this site and him to talk to. I know this is probably consuming your thoughts, so perhaps a trained professional can help. Your guy is in a bad place and you can't help him. He can only help himself.

 

[Sabrina0712]

I know Nico...n thank you. He is so angry n has so much hate. I wish I could help....but I have done enough. If he can't see the greatness in me I sometimes think its his loss. I am seeing my therapist tomorrow. I haven't seen her in mths. I wish i can sit someone down n tell him how much I have been there for him n how much I have done for him. Everything hurts cause in my head I keep thinking all he said to me. All the promises but in a flicker his anger comes back n the hate for me.
I am going to read your story Nico....thank you again for replying back. :(

 

[Nicolette]

I sent his cat that he adores treats, toys....just os he can realize what a good person I am.

One thing I will say, is no matter who you are with, you would hope they would see you as a good person for who you are and not just because you sent them or their animal a gift :(

 

[Sabrina0712]

I know...I was just trying to connect w/him. I am not saying he has to talk to me cause I sent him things...no way but I want him to know I care for him. I have just never been in this position to know exactly what is going on.

 

[Nicolette]

I have just never been in this position to know exactly what is going on.

All you can really do is make decisions which are best for you and your children based on what you do know.... hypothesising or making assumptions on what or what is not is probably not in your best interest right now.

 

[Sabrina0712]

Thank you Nicolette...I deserve better. Today I feel I did the right thing...with all his name calling n the way he treated me...I know I did the bigger n better thing by being a better person. I was looking towards him for validation but today I got my validation. He is not capable of love. PTSD or not...the way he spoke about his past exes, his mom...I should have known his anger towards women. EX: He labelled me an alcoholic when I never ever ever drink but he offered me a shot at his home n he called me an alcoholic for that one drink in over a year lol. That just shows that this person will only feel better about himself by putting others down.

He got his package yesterday...n I was looking for at least a thank you...just a simple Thank you now leave me alone! Something...but now I find the validation within myself. I am a better person and I will always care for someone regardless who n what they have been thru.
Just wished he saw me the same way...thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for all your kind words n your insight to this. I wish each n every one of you never ever go thru the pain I did...I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy.

 

[Nico]

Yeah, I think it's time to see a therapist if you aren't already. If you have health insurance (which you should with Obamacare), mental health is covered. For example, all I pay is a copay for my therapist and I'm on an individual plan.

 

[Sabrina0712]

Thank you @Nico I am seeing one...n first thing she said was Oh no not someone w/PTSD lol! So sad...