General Genuinely Do Not Understand,

[wife of]

Ok to whom it may concern.

As stated from the beginning this post was not a dig at anyone and any reasonable insight given in a reasonable and appropriate manner was much appreciated.

My self and ArmyBrat have been in contact and both apologised for any "hurt" taken from this.

I would ask that anyone with anything futher reasonable to add please do so or if management prefer I also have no objection to this post being locked as it was never my intention to start a state of conflict here.

My post was never to question anyones "right" to be here,that is not my issue,I'm not admin.

My post was to gain understanding.

 

[Nicolette]

I think that since we are all grown up we can safely move on with this back on topic instead of locking the thread.

Well done to Wife Of and Army Brat for sorting out their differences in an appropriate manner.

Back to the topic at hand I say................

 

[wife of]

Cheers "mum".;)

 

[leweyoz]

I'm glad you guys were able to sort it out. As a newbie here I just felt Wife of was thinking out loud so to speak, not necessarily attacking anyone. I guess we each have our own thoughts and reasons as to why we do things, what works for us isn't always what works for soemone else. I have read that it would appear in some peoples posts that they are no longer seeing their sufferer, but I guess they are hoping that it won't always be that. As I said new here so only guessing at your thoughts.

For me, I am just pleased to see that the way PTSD plays out is the same for us all. Not pleased, you're suffering but you feel less isolated. It also put things into perspective. Some here are suffering way more than me and I guess I may be suffering way more than someone else, who knows. As has been said, it's different for us all.

 

[Molly Anne]

Loss is loss. A heart doesn't know the difference between death and packing up and walking out the door.

I describe it as feeling as though my best friend died. I don't understand what is going on, and came here to seek guidance from people who are dealing with or have dealt with these issues. I came here because it was recommended to me by a marine wife, whose husband is a sufferer, that I become educated.

So now that I'm dealing with a relationship on the rocks - possibly a failed one - I am here, seeking guidance. My relationship may be over, but I'm not sure of that yet. I'd like to learn more about what I'm dealing with before I walk away from the love of my life. Moving on is easier said than done.

 

[Mrs. T]

Molly Anne, I think this place is good for getting educated. I think it is good that you want to get educated before walking away...it may be the best thing you have ever done. PTSD was something I had only heard about before recently when a therapist I talked to suggested my husband may have it. I really am thankful for what I now understand. I wish everyone were educated about this so they could better understand those suffering.

Hope things work out for you in your relationship.

 

[jenkins123]

I didn't particularly want to comment on this thread, in that I didn't really want to keep it active, but now it has taken a better turn I do feel the need to comment, without, may I hasten to add, attacking you, wife of.

I comment now only because I sincerely hope that anyone whose relationship has broken down due to ptsd ALWAYS feels welcome to come here and talk, ask, or just silently read. It is what I did, and still do, and it has been invaluable.

I understood some of the earlier reactions, and it may have simply been some of the implied negative wording, such as saying people were "moping" after a relationship with a ptsd sufferer had ended.

This site educates, guides, and offer support before during and after.

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