Getting My Hopes Up Only To Fall

[Bill Dickerson]

I am in the middle of an anxiety attack. I went and talked to a Pre-Purchase counselor this morning in reference to buying a house. I got a little advise on credit but my income which is only disability leaves me stuck if I try to buy myself.

My Mom is 81 and has said she wants to move back to the country where she grew up. We discussed me going in with her and getting a place together. I would have somewhere to live when she is gone. I told her I wanted a few acres so I could put out some bees or just do something useful.

It's very hard to find anything where she wants to go. I did find a nice spot not too far from her home town but all I get is "It's too much land" or "we don't need a barn" or "It's too much". It might be all of those things but I have the feeling nothing is going to suit her and I am so frustrated and feeling trapped.

I feel so useless and trapped.

I know if I don't get something now I'm screwed. Maybe I'll when the lottery huh...LOL.

I've been trying not to hyperventilate for about an hour. I'm trying not to cry that will lead to sobs and I don't want to go there.

 

[therapybankrupt]

Bill take some deep breaths. Slow down and breath from your belly not you chest and see if that helps. Have you asked your mom what she would like? May be a compromise? If not you could always use the house you buy now as the down payment for another house later to your liking. Does that sound like a possibility?

 

[Bill Dickerson]

Compromise is part of the problem. She would get something on the town square with an 1/8 of an acre. I would go nuts.

She said getting some land would be OK with her of that was a few weeks ago.

Buying a place as an investment for something later would go over like a lead balloon.

Where we are now it's a real small lot but I have a shop where I can piddle. If I say it's black she says it's white. It just feels like a total waste of time. I'm just really, really, frustrated.