Think the title explains this well.
I have very few things i feel safe doing in a sexual relationship. So I've become stuck being only able to do what I'm used to. And I feel guilty about that because it feels al about me in that respect... I feel I should be giving my partner more/ doing more. In some ways I want to be brave and try new things. But most of the time if we do i freeze and it triggers a cascade of unhealthy reactions/ thoughts/ feelings/ emotions etc ... so it's safer not to... it's taken years not to feel physically sick just to do what we do now... anything else feels unsurmountable...
Has anyone else been through this and worked through sexual trauma in the relationship to free you (both) up from past traumas... how? Do you recommend just working through feeling sick and dissociated to do this (can't see any other way)?
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I have very few things i feel safe doing in a sexual relationship. So I've become stuck being only able to do what I'm used to. And I feel guilty about that because it feels al about me in that respect... I feel I should be giving my partner more/ doing more. In some ways I want to be brave and try new things. But most of the time if we do i freeze and it triggers a cascade of unhealthy reactions/ thoughts/ feelings/ emotions etc ... so it's safer not to... it's taken years not to feel physically sick just to do what we do now... anything else feels unsurmountable...
Has anyone else been through this and worked through sexual trauma in the relationship to free you (both) up from past traumas... how? Do you recommend just working through feeling sick and dissociated to do this (can't see any other way)?
Has