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Giving a gift to your t

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nowthisisme

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What are your thoughts about giving a gift to your T. I brought her a simple mug based on a joke we keep having. Would it be weird if i give it to her? If it were anyone else i wouldn't hesitate one bit but i don't want to make her uncomfortable. What's your thoughts? Have you ever given your T a gift? What was his/her reaction?
 
@nowthisisme I gave my t of then 2 years a book that had come up in our sessions a few time at Christmas last year. I left it where I sit at the end of a session and neither of us has said anything since. It is on his bookshelf and the spine is wrinkled so I know he read it. I am still seeing him this year and if something catches my eye and is not to expense I may pick something up again this year. He goes out of his way helping me with so many small things that for me I hope it conveys a small amount of how I appreciate him.
 
Now I'm excited to give it to her!
Fair warning : A lot of therapists aren't ethically allowed to accept gifts from clients. Either because of their professional body, or their practice (solo or group) has a flat no-acceptance policy.

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Ethics Committee member Neil Massoth, PhD, noted that while there's no specific ethical standard that addresses client gifts, there is some guidance in the code. For example, Principle A says psychologists strive to benefit their clients and do no harm--would accepting or refusing the gift cause harm? Would accepting the gift create a harmful or exploitative relationship, as in Standards 3.06 and 3.08? Other factors include whether it's personal in nature, a one-time occurrence or a pattern, for a special occasion or no apparent reason, and expensive or reasonable in cost.

For example, he recounted at first feeling uncomfortable accepting a large chocolate and peanut butter Christmas candy from a client. However, he changed his mind when she told him that she made 60 to 70 every holiday, and humorously added that he "shouldn't feel too terribly important."

When weighing their decision, psychologists should also consider cultural factors, he added--pointing to Principle E on respecting the dignity of others. Depending on a person's background, he said, psychologists may do more harm than good if they refuse a reasonable gift. That said, he also noted that many psychologists have a flat no-acceptance policy.

There's a ton more reading on the subject in various bodies (psychologists, psychiatrists, social work, etc.). Some schools flat out teach not to accept gifts whatsoever as it's always an ethics violation, others teach it's a fairly grey area.

One way around this is to bring the mug & tell your T that if they can accept gifts, it's a gift, and if not? It's something funny for you two to laugh over & you'll take it home with you.
 
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My therapist was sick with a cold one week, so I brought her this tea (called 'cold 911') it was a single serving amount. We didn't speak much about it. I could careless what she did with it. I wanted to be kind, she understood my intention but didn't overtly accept it. Given I am in the social work field myself, I asked her about it one day and was curious if she drank it or gave it to someone else. I don't think we ever got to talking about it again. If it's something small and little to no expense, then some therapists my accept. But as someone posted above, don't take offence if he/she declines. What I enjoy doing is getting something that she can equally share with the office. That was a tactic I would use with my clients when working. You don't want to upset the individual, but you also do not want to cross boundaries and foster personal relationships, so you can accept the gift but state that you will share with everyone in the office. At the end of the day they see your intention, and that is all you should worry about. After so long of working with clients, they care about you and wish you well. There is no need or expectation of a gift. The best gift would be to see you succeed
 
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