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[reddevil1111]

Yeah and its not fair for me to guess whats going on either. Sorry about that. I hope you can figure it out. Sometimes its just as important to focus on getting yourself right again. You cant fix anything if your a huge mess either. Good luck man.

 

[dutchiedelta]

Bitch and moan as much as you like. This is a place where people may not understand everything or disagree but so far no blood shed yet :)

As a mother...the love for my children overrules anything else.
I didn't forget my ex and loved him to bits as well.
But he was a grown man and my kids needed me.

Add being constant tired from lack of sleep and marriage falling apart....
Guess I wasn't the nicest person around back then.

As a mother with PTSD.... This is not a comparison or is mine bigger then yours okay?
But heck, the times I wanted to scream cos I had to stay calm for the kids and inside I went absolutely apeshit.
As a father no doubt has as well.

Very honest of your wife to say she needs time to recover as well. At least she's honest about that.
With a baby with medical issues, she might put her priorities on taking care of the nipper and recover a bit herself.
don't beat yourelf up about it.
If you could have acted differently the last three years, you would have.
That's the long and short of it. We don't choose to go ballistic at times.

 

[atilla]

Welcome to the forum Brother. The only advice I can give you is take it one day at a time. I have been married 4 times since I ets'd. Just one day at a time. Welcome home Brother.

 

[FishNH]

Thank you very much atilla. One day at a time. I tell myself that but Idk if I believe it either. But like everyone says, gotta get myself right before anything else. I appreciate everything guys and gals

 

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Welcome.

 

[Grizzly]

Atilla is right. I have found that I can't deal with it more than one day at a time. It's impossible to fix yesterday. Nearly impossible to fix tomorrow. So fixing what's happening now will be the easiest thing to do. One day. I'd been dealing with shit for 20 odd years. I just recently started putting the pieces together. Let the therapy do it's work. And try and find your own therapy when the other isn't available.

 

[Friday]

When my son was super sick (in Children's Hospital for yonks) I actually got to use this PTSD crap to my / his benefit. Up every hour for vitals, hypervigilent as to early warning signs, the half doze/half awake... & 24hr nursing so I could walk out whenever I needed to & chill.

It was after he got mostly better that I crashed. Again. And then I felt guilty when he got worse again... Because the hospital was Soooooo relaxing. Ah. I can sleep. Other people are on watch. And go back to using this shit, again, instead of it getting in my way. And be around other people who get it. Eventually I worked out a balance. And then the rug gets pulled out again and things are sideways. Only thing I know for sure is that things change. But that first time his level of care changed, threw me for a massive loop. Total flat spin. Each time since, though, it's been easier. I think, mostly because I know the stall is coming. I don't deal well with sudden transitions. Even just learning THAT helped.

 

[OldDoorGunner]

Brother welcome to the forum. You found the best place to be. Except, sometime we need to get on our ground pounders to get in the shower!!!!

J R

 

[FishNH]

Lol I didn't know ground pounders knew what the hell water was!!!!!

 

[Spock]

Welcome, glad you found us. Check out the media section. Give your spouse a voice in your therapy when you get a chance

 

[Lee C]

Welcome mate