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Thank you for saying all this. It all makes a lot of sense. I am so so sorry you had experiences like that too. It is the shame you are right. And it is not your shame or mine to carry and yet it feels like that.
I know my childhood was very different to that of my friends. I always thought their parents were really 'soft' but now I see they were just loving and warm and responsive.
I think I am accepting more that my childhood was really not normal.
The question @Ice_Fire about age. It was two different people and one it stopped I can't remember when but around the age of like upper junior school so around 9 and it was not (too much info) penetrative in a way that would have got me pregnant none of it was. But then the other person it started when I had breasts so around 11 properly although there were other things before that they were very minor more like grooming.
I do think my therapist was trying to help me understand that it was bad and to validate it.
I also think the confusion is just really bad because my mum has this thing that we had a wonderful childhood even though she also knows that she told her solicitor loads of things about my dad that showed how damaging his behaviour was so it is really weird.
I know my childhood was very different to that of my friends. I always thought their parents were really 'soft' but now I see they were just loving and warm and responsive.
I think I am accepting more that my childhood was really not normal.
The question @Ice_Fire about age. It was two different people and one it stopped I can't remember when but around the age of like upper junior school so around 9 and it was not (too much info) penetrative in a way that would have got me pregnant none of it was. But then the other person it started when I had breasts so around 11 properly although there were other things before that they were very minor more like grooming.
I do think my therapist was trying to help me understand that it was bad and to validate it.
I also think the confusion is just really bad because my mum has this thing that we had a wonderful childhood even though she also knows that she told her solicitor loads of things about my dad that showed how damaging his behaviour was so it is really weird.
