so this would be seperate to grooming altogether in my experience. this would occur within the context of an equal reletionship whereas grooming tend to occur within an unequal relationship.
for what you are using together those two things would not be used interchangebly because they are not describing the same thing. dv vs grooming are two very different relational dynamics.
this is why you often see grooming applied to children-because children are usually weaker within a power dynamic.
but you can also have it occurring within for example that you could hear of things like hollywood record producers and the like. and a lot of these people are young adults. but they are still dealing with a power dynamic (like s3 just described.)
and which i suppose it can occur in a dv situation but the dynamics in my experience are different anyway-primarily that one partner is severely disadvantaged in some way.
So grooming requires unequal power then, right? So how would that work as an adult? Say there’s a boss who hits on his employee and the only way that employee can keep their job is to cave to the boss’ demands. But as an adult you have the option of reporting to HR (if the company has it) or going to a different job (not super simple but doable enough). So then it would just a boss sexually harassing the employee- not grooming. Possibly professor vs student, but again there’s choices the student could make that would negate any grooming and then it’s just a professor trying to manipulate a situation and just being a gross asshole.