Let us not forget that no body on here is a professional and can find some stories a trigger and react accordingly.
We are all going through our own personal trauma and each one differs from person to person.
Whilst disclosing things online is a brave and trusting thing to do it pays to remember that there will inevitibly be comments that you might not wish to hear.
We have to put it into perspective and think about why things are said and about the person saying them as well as how it affects us personally.
We then have a choice whether to take comments personally maybe because it hits a nerve for someone who is feeling intense guilt and self loathing over a traumatic event in their past? or to hear them in a less defensive or judgemental way and accept that for some parts what is said bears some truth in how the trauma would be perceived for what it was.
No one can be blamed for that.
On another side, some people already feel immense guilt over a traumatic event and it takes a while to disclose this to others. When they expect some respite from the guilt and infact get told what they already know in a judgemental way it is going to result in a negative disclosure.
We, I, understand what you must feel and in a perfect world you could have saved the dog and got it to a vet. Without being there I have no idea how I would have reacted. But like you my thoughts would have been to put the poor thing out of its misery. This is not an easy quest and once committed it seems best to carry on. If it is not put to sleep by the first attempt then what should you do, leave it in even more pain? Try again? If you left it to die slowly would you feel guilty about that too? The decision at the time must have been one of pain and anguish not pleasure or indifference.
However, given the topic we can also not be surprised that people find the act disgusting and barbaric. What matters is the motive and reasoning. I believe this was done with the best intentions at the time and I for one cannot judge anyone for it.
I hope this gets resolved so we can all move on in a more positive direction. :)
best wishes
Saffy :)
