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Poll Have You Ever Had Survival Sex?

Have You Ever Had Survival Sex and What For?


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I think it does count as survivor sex. Touch is a very important and very human need, and if we don't get it we can get desperate to the point of frenzy and behaving in crazy ways. I think that is why I went with the guy I made my f*ckbuddy for a year. He was around the corner from me, and he was a big solid guy who had martial arts training and said that if anyone messed with me, he'd sort them out.

I never wanted to rely on any man for protection as I am into self-sufficiency and self- reliance and I was training in martial arts at the time...but I admit it did feel good to have someone on my side in the city, who would go after any guy who messed with me, and make sure he never did it again. That did feel good to have that protection...and cuddles. The sex was very much like pornstars do it...which I can't believe I allowed to go on, but I guess that's what we put up with when in these situations.

I value myself a lot more these days though, even with the current job...which I don't even feel any shame about, despite it being frowned upon by the rest of society. When I can go home with $400 (a whole weeks wage) in cash in one day, four days a week, THAT'S a good feeling. I can pick and choose who I decide to give extras too, and the rest get a good massage, which is what they paid for. I enjoy giving massage, so I'm getting paid shitloads for doing something I basically love to do...which is AWESOME!

The conditions are clean and great, the girls are mostly nice, apart from one very vindictive bitch who works there, but you get that. I can wear what I want, go barefoot, and the lights are very dim which is PERFECT for me. Fluros bug the hell out of my brain and I think they make me depressed. It's a job, like any other job...you have good days and bad days, good customers and pigs, but as long as I can feel that sense of being worry free and having no money troubles...then I'm happy. I've gotten used to the other things, and I have my limits.

I agree with you Ayesha, I don't see anything wrong with prostitution, and I think that is something our society needs to really start breaking down the stigma surrounding it, and stop shaming women who do this work. They would not be there if there was not a demand for the service, and no one ever judges the men for going there. Prostitutes have enough that they have to deal with without having to be judged on top of all that.

It is a challenging and relaxing atmosphere, and it has really changed my point of view about some things. Everywhere I look I see men who would no doubt come into a place like where I work and ask for all kinds of things. Married men especially. I would say that 99% of customers are married men.
 
I used to own a motel. The police busted guys for going to the prostitutes too, not just the girls. They'd come by later and hand me the keys after they had the person(s) cuffed and in their vehicle. It was also made plain to me that if I didn't kick them out if I knew about them pulling tricks at my place, that I could be arrested as well.
 
I was sick with Colorectal cancer, and living on Government assistance. I had surgery, and was recovering. Naturally I was underweight, malnourished and recovering from serious illness and laparoscopic surgery.

A man approached me one day as I sat on the curb, trying to catch my breath (I was living alone and was trying to get to a doctor's appointment) and I was in tears. Here I was at 29 years old , and I felt like I was 90!

He asked me what I needed and I told him I needed to get to the Dr. He drove me there, I was so sickeningly grateful. I told him how I was living and the despair I felt. He told me he could help me.

He wanted a sexual relationship and he would "take care" of me...he already had a wife.
I think it's horrid when a man takes advantage of a sick young woman for sex ESPECIALLY a married man. He lied about being married and his real name and age until the end :C

I did it; I hate myself for it.
 
I was making more money doing this then I was working a normal job. With my normal job I had to fight for the hours, deal with rude people and people who hit on me. Even then I was only making between $75 to $125 per week. With no hope of that changing either.

With my 2nd job it was becoming clear to me that my two bosses were expecting me to sleep with them in order to keep my job. But my instinct told me that this was a bad idea. Gut told me that they would hurt me. One had already sexual harassed me in the kitchen.

I know the first guy would have kept me on as a mistress. I wold have been making more money with him then in 2 weeks with my 1st retail job. There was no shortage of other men who were chasing me around.

I liked being able to say when, how much and who with!
 
Validation that what you did was for survival and not something 'promiscuous' in terms of having no morals as viewed by society is important. Knowing others have experienced the same and you are not some sort of 'defect' or 'abnormal' is also healing. Please be kind to yourselves.
 
LightWithinMe, I am sorry it made you feel that you hate yourself.

I just had a thought that maybe it would help you to feel better, if you reframed how you view that scenario, so instead of seeing it as him taking advantage of you, and you being the victim, perhaps you can think of it as he saw that you could both get your needs fulfilled this way.

He needed sex, and maybe he was in a loveless marriage where he hadn't had sex in a very long time and needed that, and you needed to pay for medical issues being resolved, and the opportunity presented itself. It was an exchange that mutually benefitted you both.

It's just a suggestion though, and I understand if that is too hard to do for you right now. I'm sorry if it sounds really crass, but if you can take the emotion out of it, it was an exchange that benefited you both and both your needs were met.

I think most people in that situation would have done the same...to survive. It's yucky that it had to be sex that paid for it, but you both got your needs met this way. It doesn't seem like there was any other option for you at the time. We all get into these situations at some point in life, unfortunately.
 
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