General Have You Told You Have Been On This Site?

[IvyMillie]

Melody yes I think my husband feels a bit similar, he's the one with PTSD. He doesn't tell me everything and I'm okay with that. I try to be supportive of what he does tell me. He has occasionally gone to a therapist and I think that is where he is most comfortable to express the deeper feelings he has.

 

[Innordinate]

My wife knows about this site. My t knows about it.
Neither of them mentions it ever, except to ask if I'm doing my journal, though I think my wife reads sometimes.

 

[Toria]

Husband doesn't know about this site - websites such as Facebook and Twitter are one of his pet hates and if he is having a bad day he can rant about them for ages (having never been on them of course... ;)) so to tell him about this may just tip him over the edge. I'm heavily involved in a Husky forum and he's not keen on that either, I'm not sure if it's a case of not understanding the internet and therefore being scared of the unknown or whether he has a different reason. I had thought about pointing him in the direction on the Combat site, but I do worry that it could make him worse...

 

[anni]

I caught myself feeling guilty for being here, which is when I told my husband about it awhile ago. NO idea why I felt guilty-some PTSD thing probably but disliked the idea of anything negative associated with something so helpful for me, you know? Everyone's different as to their own comfort zone, but I'd have to say whatever is the most peaceful choice for oneself. I'm pretty sure there are people in my life who I didn't want to have nosing around in my business who followed me here-used to make me crazy. I pretty much do not care any more- have at it. I've told my husband and my T which is as far as my personal comfort zone goes although have recommended it to some.

 

[Cyndi S]

My Significant other knows that I'm on a forum for emotional support but he never asked exactly what that emotional support was for. So he knows I'm on a forum I just don't think he realizes its him related. If he comes out and asks I'll tell him but I have no plans of offering up the information since I'm not sure how he'll take it. I know that his PTSD is kind of the elephant in the room that he doesn't want to talk about, and that he feels guilty already that I have to live with this as well.

 

[Kb3]

My husband and therapist know about this site and are fine with it. I have told them both why I am here and my husband in particular is happy that I am getting support this way because at times he has felt overwhelmed and not known what to say to me about my PTSD. I think that he's just relieved that I'm feeling better.

 

[RiverEDGE]

I know this is an older thread, but I struggled with this question after I first found this site. I was afraid my boyfriend, with combat PTSD, would be embarrassed or think that it wouldn't help because he doesn't think anyone understands what he is going through. I finally told him about it and some of the tips I had learned through this site, which he has seen me utilize, and he was actually impressed that I was putting forth the effort to help our relationship.

I think he was surprised that the advice on here was so helpful. He said that he was glad that it was helping me cope with his PTSD, which sounds weird, but I guess it makes sense. He even wants me to suggest this site to his family because it explains things about PTSD that he can't.

 

[Serasen]

I was worried about telling my husband I was on this site as well. He is always ranting about people posting personal stuff online like on facebook and stuff.

When he came home the other night and asked me if I thought he was an **shole I brought it up. I said it had helped me realize that our problems are not unique to us. I told him that no one on here proclaimed to be a doctor or told anyone what to do; that it was for sufferers and carers to share and get some support and learn from each other. He took it very well, better than I had expected.

He is not in therapy or on medication so I also thought this would make him realize that I am doing something proactive for us and maybe that would encourage him to do so as well.

I hope you told him. ((hugs and encouragement))

 

[skh40]

I told my husband about this site, and also showed him some threads that I thought would give him a so called "light bulb" moment. It has opened his eyes a fair bit, and so far this forum has been a helpful tool in our marriage and in his effort to continue to get better. I was worried as well that he would hate me putting his issue out in the open, on the internet with strangers, but he was quite receptive.

I also told him that it helped me to see that I am not alone in the battle that is his PTSD and that I could gain support by carers and sufferers alike. Once he saw that this isnt a site bashing husbands or putting anyone down, he actually read a few threads. Especially the one on verbal abuse. He cried after reading it, because I honestly think some of the stories really equated to how he felt and why he did it.

I'm not sure if he comes on here now, by himself, but I dont need to know, because I know this is a "safe place" for him to share his feelings :)

 

[Eleanor]

I told my H about here - shared Anthony's PTSD stress cup explanation - kind of hoped he would join too.. I think he reads my posts from time to time. I talk about my "Forum Friends" like I do other friends (not that I have too many any more!) and relay thoughts and suggestions. I don't know if he reads my diary. It would be ok if he did. Well, this week it would anyway...:confused:

 

[piratelady]

No, I don't tell anyone about this site...especially since they don't know I have PTSD. Once I accidentally hit the Facebook "Recommend" button when I was on my diary... :eek:... luckily I figured out how to get it off of my facebook page. I think even if I did tell some people I had PTSD I wouldn't tell them about this site. I wouldn't want them to read my diary or anything.

 

[Lionheart]

Yes, I have told my family that I am on this site and they think it's great. They don't come here out of respect for my privacy, but they know they can if they wish to and it would not bother me.

However, having said that, I prefer to remain anonymous with everyone else.