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It sounds like she’s crying out for help. I think you made a very good decision in how you handled that.

That is what I thought too. I am no longer enabling herAnymore.

And your granddaughters most definitely will.

Thank you for giving a reason to hang on.

 

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Agree with @Muted She was crying out for help and you did do the right thing. sometimes we displace our anger because it is easier to be angry at someone else instead of ourselves.

Honestly, I don't think you are the one she is really angry at, just the safest person to be angry at. It's pretty common in D.V. relationships.Wife is angry because she is being abused but directing her anger at the man is too dangerous so to protect herself she redirects that anger inward or at safer people. I know I did that with a landlord that tried to help me escape and I didn't understand why I did for a long time.

 

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sometimes we displace our anger because it is easier to be angry at someone else instead of ourselves.

Thank you so much for giving me some common sense to hang onto. I was just giving up not too long ago today.

I don't think you are the one she is really angry at, just the safest person to be angry at. It's pretty common in D.V. relationships.Wife is angry because she is being abused but directing her anger at the man is too dangerous so to protect herself she redirects that anger inward or at safer people. I know I did that with a landlord that tried to help me escape and I didn't understand why I did for a long time.

Thank you so much for being here today. I am at a complete loss in what to do and just felt as though she needed me to stay far away from her and the kids.

 

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:hug::hug::hug:

 

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@Rain You know I’m not one to give out fluffy responses, and I’m not going to with you either. Quit your shit right now and start thinking logically. You are weaning down on meds, you just had a really tough month, your anxiety has been way up, you’re not eating very well, and you MISS your grandkids. OF COURSE you feel like shit, it’s absolutely OK too.

COPING skills????????? Have you been doing them???? Self soothing stuff???? Have you been doing them?????? Grounding skills???? How about those?????

I know it’s tough, been there done that bought the tee shirt and then bought the company too. But it’s OK!!!! You’re supposed to feel like shit. But it doesn’t mean that you should run off and kill yourself or self harm. It means that you need to kick yourself in the ass, or at least pull your head out of your ass and figure out what the hell you should be doing to HELP yourself.

Seriously, if you kill yourself, what in the hell would that prove???? What would it accomplish??? Do you think it would upset your daughter enough to want to say, “gee mom I f*cked up too? “. It would be too late!!!!!

I know this sounds stupid and hurtful, but it’s only been a yr. I went 6 yrs at one poi;t so I KNOW how awful this can be. But, shit @Rain, get OUT of your head and start taking care of yourself. Things can and will get better, but they can’t if you give up!!!!

Hate me if you want, but I f*cking care and would miss the shit out of you.... Think about what’s been said.......

 

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Quit your shit right now and start thinking logically. You are weaning down on meds, you just had a really tough month, your anxiety has been way up, you’re not eating very well, and you MISS your grandkids. OF COURSE you feel like shit, it’s absolutely OK too.

I am so glad to hear from you today.

t I f*cking care and would miss the shit out of you.... Think about what’s been said.......

The tears are falling, thank you so much. No I am doing anything but withdrawing off of this med and feeling sad. I guess that is not very productive.

Thank you again so very much. I really needed to hear this today.

 

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@Rain why are you weaning off the meds??? Drs orders, or you just decided to get off of it???

 

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why are you weaning off the meds???

I ordered the effexor and was told that I can expect no more help even though I am covered, and have to come up with a five hundred dollar co pay and I am running on fumes in my car and will get some money on Wednesday and I have applied for financieal assistance which takes forty five days to process. I have three effexors left and have a one time chance to get a refill but I am on blood pressure meds and was thinking I would not want to get off of those or be at a high risk of a heart attack or stroke so I have been debating if I just just take the chance and fill the effexor instead. I have a lot of the blood pressure meds left but not enough for forty five days. Had I known that it would be hard getting off of it I would never have gone on it in the first place! No one thought to tell me that I would be caught out like this and I guess that is just life being life. But i hit a new bottom today and it all finally caught up with me.

I thought I would risk going off all of the psych meds because of this. Not thinking clearly today.

 

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How long have you been on Effexor??? It’s one of the worst to get off of, that and Cymbalta.... Call your Dr, and ask for samples. No BEG him for samples....

 

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Call your Dr, and ask for samples. No BEG him for samples....

I was going to call him tomorrow and I think I have been on them for over a year now.

 

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First thing in the morning, get on the phone and call him. I don’t care if you have to get on your knees and beg, but that’s not a drug to stop cold turkey. I know, I stopped Cymbalta cold turkey and prayed for death and could not get off the couch for 10 days. Took a full 6 months for the withdrawals to stop. Said then I’d never do another antidepressant and I haven’t. f*ck EM!!!!!!

 

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I know, I stopped Cymbalta cold turkey and prayed for death and could not get off the couch for 10 days. Took a full 6 months for the withdrawals to stop. Said then I’d never do another antidepressant and I haven’t. f*ck EM!!!!!!

Thank you for being honest with me. I have been feeling very scared since I found out about this and everything finally caught up with me. It all kind of snowballed today. I will call him first thing in the morning and ask him if I should just use the emergency refill to use that for the effexor.