He Denies Things That He Said

[Alahic]

Looking for other supporters', input. My partner denies things he says. He contradicts what he says etc. I know he's not in a good place right now, but even so. He denies things he said about us, and he says he told me his issues upfront. He also says he never insinuated anything about us which is totally untrue and I have much of it in writing. But if we argue and he explains himself, he gets defensive and threatens that we're done if I don't respond. (By answering his calls or text) is the ptsd or just outright abuse? I don't know how to know what's what.

 

[Vimac]

My vet did not tell me he was diagnose with PTSD until we were married. He tries to downplay his illness and also keeps making promises he cannot keep. Then denies having made the promise.

 

[Kaja]

My vet does the same damn thing... either he "forgot" or denies it.

 

[Iwof]

My vet does suffer from memory problems. I'm pretty sure he has suffered a number of TBIs as well as his PTSD. So he can be forgetful.

Over and above that, when he is emotional and says nasty things to me he seems to genuinely not be aware of them even moments later when he has calmed down. Medical professionals have told me that he is most likely disassociating at those times.

 

[Cevu]

Yeah, I have the same issue with my guy - even when I have text messages from him saying one thing!

I remember one time we had a very long discussion about whether we had taken the back road out of town before. I was absolutely certain that I had never driven down that road before. And he was adamant that we had done exactly that the weekend before! We ended up agreeing to disagree, but we both ended the conversation thinking the other person was nuts!

 

[Udakij]

My vet does the same damn thing... either he "forgot" or denies it.

This is not the Kaja from the boards, is it? It is a anonymous person with the same name.

 

[Uzoj]

No, I was Kaja on this thread, and it was just a generated name.