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Ubarug
Hi,
As of lately, my cptsd husband is starting fights with my family. My mother has always been very supportive of our relationship, through it all. She triggered something in him the other day (she was critical, which she is almost never) , his rage was completely out of proportion, demanded I got in the car and that we were leaving. We left head over heels while I had made plans to help her with a task. I pleaded with him to turn around and at least say goodbye and thank her for letting us stay with her a while. The answer was no.
She is a very warm,emotional, caring person. The opposite of him. He cant stand " people like her", he is afraid of them because they want to connect on a deeper level than his drinking buddies. Scares the hell out of him. So he runs away, ridicules them and puts them down.
He prefers people around him that only connect superficially.
I am feeling like a failure right now. Like this is all my fault. Sometimes I feel guilty at my mother for not choosing an easier partner. We will probably never have kids either, since he has so many unhealthy coping mechanisms. I would not want to subject a child to all that tension and rage.
Anyway, that was my rant for today.
As of lately, my cptsd husband is starting fights with my family. My mother has always been very supportive of our relationship, through it all. She triggered something in him the other day (she was critical, which she is almost never) , his rage was completely out of proportion, demanded I got in the car and that we were leaving. We left head over heels while I had made plans to help her with a task. I pleaded with him to turn around and at least say goodbye and thank her for letting us stay with her a while. The answer was no.
She is a very warm,emotional, caring person. The opposite of him. He cant stand " people like her", he is afraid of them because they want to connect on a deeper level than his drinking buddies. Scares the hell out of him. So he runs away, ridicules them and puts them down.
He prefers people around him that only connect superficially.
I am feeling like a failure right now. Like this is all my fault. Sometimes I feel guilty at my mother for not choosing an easier partner. We will probably never have kids either, since he has so many unhealthy coping mechanisms. I would not want to subject a child to all that tension and rage.
Anyway, that was my rant for today.
