Sufferer Hello, Domestic Violence Survivor

[Sues]

Hi Everyone, I was married to an abusive jerk who did a really good job of screwing me up. He was a cop and is now retired. I didn't realize it was as bad as it was until I got away from it. I cannot believe that I put up with so much for so many years. I describe my ex by telling people, "he's not a nice person". This is of course a huge understatement. No one ever had a clue about what was going on in our home all of those years. It still amazes me that he had that much control over me and that I was that fearful of him (and still am).

My son and I both got away and are hiding from him as best we can. I have PTSD and depression. I have nightmares and trouble dealing with a lot of things.

Oh, as a newbee, I have a stupid question that I could not find the answer for... how do I check my messages? It says I have 1, but even in my profile area, I can't figure out how to find them. Thanks.

 

[JustBe]

Hi and welcome. I am a domestic violence survivor too (among other stuff!)

To get your messages or alerts, just click on the red button with the number on it next to the alert or inbox at the top of the page :)

 

[Sues]

Thank you Movin' On. I tried that but I have more messages than alerts. oh well, no biggie. Thanks for the welcome. I'm gonna try to sleep now, wish me luck!

I figured it out, it says I have a "message" every time I post something. I'll just ignore it. but thanks.

 

[Bilby]

Hi Sues, welcome :)

 

[cat]

Hi Sues

Welcome to PTSD forum. I hope you find all the support & hope for the future you deserve here, as a fellow domestic abuse survivor I know I have.

I'm sure you have many memories to work through, I'm willing to listen if it will help.

Take care

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi Sues, Welcome to the Forum! Take your time and learn your way around. There is a lot of information on the Home page. So glad you found the site.

 

[SweetPeaandSunBird]

Welcome Sues, this is a great place where you don't have to restrict yourself to understatements. I hope you find it a safe place to vent, to learn and to breathe more easily.

 

[Sues]

Thank you all for your welcome! And thank you Cat for offering to listen too. I'm glad I found this forum and I wish I had looked sooner. There's so much information here, it's amazing!

 

[KP the nut]

Hi Sues and welcome to the forum.

This is a wonderful place for information, support and friendship.

I wish you well on your healing journey.

 

[intothelight]

Welcome to the PTSD Forum! :)

 

[anthony]

Welcome to PTSD Forum.

 

[goingonhope]

Hi and Welcome to the forum, Sues. I too am a DV survivor.

Feel free to ask as many questions as you have. The Help Desk forum is a good place too, for this. Good news to hear that you and your son escaped.

Keep up loving him lots and take good care of you Sues.

Also, ...Enjoyed reading your thread on true strength, courage and bravery. Hoping the forum is most helpful.

Take care.