Hello to everyone, I have been with partner a good few years (ex Military) and although he had the odd traumatic nightmare he seemed able to cope and function. I found the odd sextin chats or chatroom flirts to women, he was always a flirt and it never bothered me as he was never physically unfaithful.
Now in 2014 I was diagnosed with breast cancer and partner was my rock, he cared for me through out all my operations and treatments.
I noticed the 'dreams' had come back with a vengeance, in fact we had to sleep separately due to his tossing and turning. It was during this night time separation that he became obsessed with online sexy chatting, I feeling vulnerable at this time asked him to stop, he didn't so although I am not proud of it I hit him really hard.
He eventually broke down and admitted he had a problem, not just with this but with issues from his military life and his past. This coming from a really proud man was difficult to do but it was a breakthrough as he was withdrawing from me emotionally and physically and his libido is very low. He has stopped the online addiction and I feel very proud of him, but he is still distant, wakes up tired, little interest in things and has bodily aches and pain that although investigated cat scan and MRI have found nothing to cause these.
He begins combat stress counselling soon and I am wondering how best to support him. I do keep the affection alive, kisses, holding hands cuddles, and try not to push him into sexual activity.
Now in 2014 I was diagnosed with breast cancer and partner was my rock, he cared for me through out all my operations and treatments.
I noticed the 'dreams' had come back with a vengeance, in fact we had to sleep separately due to his tossing and turning. It was during this night time separation that he became obsessed with online sexy chatting, I feeling vulnerable at this time asked him to stop, he didn't so although I am not proud of it I hit him really hard.
He eventually broke down and admitted he had a problem, not just with this but with issues from his military life and his past. This coming from a really proud man was difficult to do but it was a breakthrough as he was withdrawing from me emotionally and physically and his libido is very low. He has stopped the online addiction and I feel very proud of him, but he is still distant, wakes up tired, little interest in things and has bodily aches and pain that although investigated cat scan and MRI have found nothing to cause these.
He begins combat stress counselling soon and I am wondering how best to support him. I do keep the affection alive, kisses, holding hands cuddles, and try not to push him into sexual activity.
