I (19M) have a friend (43?F) who is really important to me. She’s like a mom figure and because of that it seems to throw up all kinds of problems over small stuff. So for example I text her something the other day about how I was feeling (just a short thing because she asked- I wasn’t doing a big depression dump but it was personal to me). She hasn’t responded to that part which I think is what triggered me but what is making me have anger about the situation is that I regularly drop things for her to text and she (I don’t think) does the same or even reads them outside of the specific times. I honestly feel like if I text her that I was on fire and it was before lunchtime she wouldn’t even know until later because she wouldn’t open it.
She has ‘boundaries’ about texting with other people which I think is what I’m experiencing. So I guess what I need to do is have boundaries myself so I don’t feel like I’m at a disadvantage? Partly it seems like passive aggression to me though to be like ‘oh you’ll only text me at certain times of the day? Well 2 can play at that game’.
It does affect my sleep though that I stay up late because that’s when she wants to talk. I do really like routine and things being the same but that’s another issue that she’s not always consistent with that. I know that’s her business and it’s completely up to her what she does but I feel like the inconsistency is also a trigger and I don’t know what to do about that one.
I’m sorry I know this all sounds really stupid.
She has ‘boundaries’ about texting with other people which I think is what I’m experiencing. So I guess what I need to do is have boundaries myself so I don’t feel like I’m at a disadvantage? Partly it seems like passive aggression to me though to be like ‘oh you’ll only text me at certain times of the day? Well 2 can play at that game’.
It does affect my sleep though that I stay up late because that’s when she wants to talk. I do really like routine and things being the same but that’s another issue that she’s not always consistent with that. I know that’s her business and it’s completely up to her what she does but I feel like the inconsistency is also a trigger and I don’t know what to do about that one.
I’m sorry I know this all sounds really stupid.