Help

[Ico]

Hey!! I'm new here and not even sure if I'm on the right site? I have a bit of a problem I met my partner in a respite centre ( I didn't work on that part I worked with the elderly. Itwas all legit he went through my manager blah blah blah) anyways I new of his physical and mental conditions before we got together. That didn't bother me at all the thing is I've now moved in with him after 2 year together and also taken the role on as being his PA/carer. My problem is I'm not recognising the signals when his PTSD, anxiety is flaring up anymore I know this is because I'm personally involved but for instance if it was someone I cared for at a home or anywhere else I would recognise them and deal with it appropriately. How do I disassociate myself when it's flaring and recognise signals without totally forgetting his mental health problems and retaliating into arguments that would be normal between a couple. Someone please help I love him so much and just want to help him.

 

[Obeve]

That's a pretty big topic.

How much do you know about PTSD, generally? And what kinds of symptoms are you having trouble with (as far as detatching yourself)?

 

[Ebol]

You learn. You do research. You go for couples counselling. You ensure that he's in treatment.

I don't think your inability to see when he's getting triggered has to do with your relationship. Generally, a s/o can see it coming a mile away.

 

[Domotu]

Generally, a s/o can see it coming a mile away.

My parents have been together for 50 years. My mother is still blindsided by my father's (combat PTSD sufferer) triggers. No-one can learn to tip toe around ALL someone else's triggers.