General He's Wearing His Dog Tags Again?

[CCurry]

Hi Sunny,

I actually read your post and then decided it was time I picked up the phone to call this doctor's office. The time has come where I cannot sit back, I won't be able to live with myself if something should happen.

Unfortunatly the secretary is not at her desk until 10:30am (went to a meeting apparently) so i'll have to call her at 11:30am after I'm done with a client.

I know he's going to get upset with me, I JUST know it. But I'm going to see if they can tell him there's a cancellation so that he doesn't even know I called. Maybe, hopefully?

Carmela

 

[ISupportHer]

I don't have but a minute but wanted to chime in that I think the Dr needs to know about the public episode.

Hope to get back with you later.

I know this is difficlt for you.

 

[CCurry]

I spoke with the Dr's secretary and she told me that she was going to call David today because she just found out that David does not have a file open with this Dr. Even though he may have seen him to get an original diagnosis in 2003, he cannot see David, he's file has been closed!!! WTF!!

So, we are no further ahead here. It seems like no matter how you cut it, he needs to go to the ER.

Very frustrated, I'm still searching other avenues.

Carmela

 

[Deleted member 541]

Seems to me like your avenues are running out. I strongly suggest that you convince David, that he needs to go to the hospital. If he refuses, you have little choice left........He needs to understand that he is not capable of taking care of himself, his safety, yours, your childrens, or the public....

I wonder what would have happened, if he had, had a much different reaction to the phrase that his tire was shredded??????

Sometimes we need to make decisions for those that are not capable of making them for themselves......

 

[CCurry]

I totally get that. He's assured me that tomorrow afternoon him and I will go to the emerg.

I feel like I've just run a marathon in my head with what's been happening over the last 12 hours.

I feel so depleted!!!! But at least he promised me that he will go tomorrow.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Did you ask him why he won't go today????

 

[CCurry]

I did, I suggested we go today and the problem is he has to be back to work at 9pm as he's teaching a program. He thinks if he goes now he might not make it out of their on time.

I sure hope he's not telling me something and then tomorrow pulls something else.

When I told him that we'd better go tomorrow afternoon OR I'll call 911. Don't know why I said that but I'm just frustrated. Talk about fright or flight. He told me to pleeeeeeaase not to threaten him or he'll bolt so fast I won't see it coming. So of course I had to retract what I said and told him that it's because I love him that I'm so frantic.

 

[Cate]

Hey. Don't know if I mentioned to you earlier that there is a place in Toronto called 'Bellwood' that specializes in PTSD. They treat many military professionals and they are considered the best in the country. Don't know if this helps or not but I guess we can all pull from our own experiences and try to help.

Hang in there.
Cate

 

[Deleted member 541]

Scenario...... Tomorrow comes, and he backs out of his promise....Then what???? We all know that PTSD suffers will use avoidance, denial, promises or whatever else we can use to not face this shit......I know, I have done the very thing he is pulling now. I made all the promises, said all the right things, but in the end, I didn't do what I promised I would.....

So seriously, what happens if he doesn't keep his promise??? What are you going to do??? Are you going to be the responsible, coherent, and rational person, or are you going to let him just go on about doing what he has been doing?????? Sometimes tough love needs to be in the forefront, and we need to take a stance.......

 

[CCurry]

Hi guys,

Cate- I've called Bellwood and have made some inquiries, they will get back to me tomorrow. The closest OSI clinic is in London, Ontario which is a bit far but haven't crossed it off my list.

SheCat- I get where you are coming from but this is the first time he's promised a date to go with me and therefore I have till tomorrow to see if he honors that. I have to give him the benefit of the doubt. If I was with him in that store I would be telling those paramedics to take him.

He's called a military collegue of his who basically was involved with OSIS (and has combat ptsd). He left him a message because he wants to go over some of his own avenues with this guy. In the meantime, I've called OSIS to help David and myself because I'm also in distress over here.

I didn't need to lose any weight over here but it's amazing what stress can do!!

 

[Pam]

This just feels like overwhelming emotional manipulation to me. It could very well be that a violent event is just around the corner and his ptsd is now in control, but if this were me, I would be checking up on his stories.

I would also leave it up to him to get to the ER. Arrange to meet him there if you must, but tell him that if he doesn't show up there will be no excuses that are acceptable and he cannot come back home again till he can present verifiable documentation that he is in treatment.

 

[CCurry]

I am so fragile right now honestly and to read a post that treats me like I'm a two year old is more than I need to hear right now.