He's Withdrawn Again:(

[Tihireg]

I haven't talked to him in 5 days. He called me as usual on his way home from work Wednesday morning and we spoke for 15 minutes and he seemed okay. Our convo was normal but I've not heard from him since. He lives away from me but assured me after his last big isolation period I would be notified if something should ever happen to him so I assume he's isolating. He had said he was under a lot of stress. We've been together over 3 years and I know he'd never just abandon me. I've done well thus far living my own life and I hurt for him knowing he's prolly struggling but that little insecurity is creeping in saying "what if he doesn't come back?" I truly think he will but it's just that sick feeling in my stomach. I'm worried. I've texted a couple times and he knows I'll be here open arms when he feels better. Guess I just needed to voice it to people who just "get it".

 

[Ekami]

You"re right, we do "get it". Hang in there, he will probably be back as soon as he"s able. I would just text every few days and let him know he"s welcome back when he"s ready.

 

[Uma]

It's happening to me right now. We've never gone a day in 4 months, without talking...now I haven't heard from him all day...he goes to bed early...so he will call within the hour or not at all.
I am a recovering from trauma and have an anxiety disorder that makes me need affirmation that everything is "ok". I told him that in the beginning. ..we promised if we ever changed our mind about each other immediately. We both have trust issues. I don't know if I can trust him again if I don't hear from tonight. I have put up with the anger and the other stuff but I can't deal with no contact. Maybe I should "cut bait" now and let us both be left still somewhat in tact.
I called, (no msg), then I texted goodnight...nothing. Its triggering a panic attack in me...I don't need this, but I miss and love him...do I let it go now? And how do I tell him?

 

[Wapikuj]

These are hard issues to have to deal with. You have to do what is best for you, whatever that works out to be.

 

[Iluri]

Isolation is hard. Not everybody can handle it in a relationship, and that is ok.