How Can A Single Person Cause Triggers/stressors

[EveHarrington]

Can you explain why you're so concerned with staying in contact with this woman------a woman who used the term "restraining order" and your name in the same sentence. IMHO no sufferer who knows about the restraining order talk by her would be suggesting that you should stay in her life as support. I feel that this is personal terrorism. I have indeed been to the point of restraining orders because a guy wouldn't take a hint (or even flat out requests/demands). It is a terrifying place in life to be. Please leave this woman alone.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but I don't understand why you won't leave this woman alone and I know how terrifying it feels to have personal boundaries totally disregarded. Are you trying to get her to like you for you or for her?

 

[Whyteferret]

Can you explain why you're so concerned with staying in contact with this woman------a woman who...

I didn't see the bit about restraining order....

 

[mary1979]

I didn't see the bit about restraining order....

Me either.
Did we miss something @EveHarrington?

A restraining order.
You might want to take a thousand steps back at this point if this threat has been made.

Rational or not, she is feeling very very vulnerable.

 

[EveHarrington]

Previous threads discuss the restraining order being mentioned by this woman in regards to this guy. More than one person advised backing off completely as even the mention of a restraining order is serious business. It's scary to me to see a former supporter who posts and doesn't take such talk seriously as I know what it's like to feel those feelings of terror when someone won't back off and you feel like you have no other option. OP has your situation changed? Is this woman willfully engaging with you? Is she responding to your texts and indicating that she does indeed want you in her life?

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Can you explain why you're so concerned with staying in contact with this woman------a woman who...

I'm not concerned at all and giving her the physical space she needs. I spoke to a social worker about the personal boundaries issues and I am taking them seriously. I am doing everything social worker said and disappearing from her life physically.

I spoke with a social worker and counselor about this issue this past week. Explained every last detail about what happened and her lashing out. The social worker said that is " normal" and to giver her space and physical time away from seeing her. She also said every so often send her a text to let her know that you are here. The social worker said she is really confused right now and is trying to regain control of situation.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Previous threads discuss the restraining order being mentioned by this woman in regards to this g...

The situation did change.

Me either.
Did we miss something @EveHarrington?

A restraining order.
You might...

Long story but when she first told me she told other people I want to get a restraining order on him than right after wards say I still want him in my life. because of who she told someone was holding it over my head. I always did take it super serious but no one around me did or got educated.

When she sees me sometimes she gets triggered and has flash backs. That has recently stopped happening. I am physically out of her life now for few months to forever.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Previous threads discuss the restraining order being mentioned by this woman in regards to this g...

The situation changed otherwise I wouldn't be a boundary violator.

 

[EveHarrington]

This woman who has PTSD has told you that it's ok to contact her?

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Yeah

 

[EveHarrington]

You're not out of her life if you are still texting her. It's impossible to follow your story or advise you when major game changing info isn't discussed. I hope you can be more open in your posts as the more info you give the better feedback you will get.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

We talked and I said we need to respect each other's boundaries especially with letting ceartin people involved in our business and we said we are good with each other.

The social worker I talked to said to check up on her don't expect a reply but do it she knows she wasn't abandoned. I'm not going to physically see her for a long time my choice

 

[Bine]

Based on my experience, people cannot be triggers. There must be many factors which eventually would cause panic attacks. But panics attacks is smth which is on the surface. Deep down there is neurosis, and this should be healed. Panic attacks are the consequence, not the reason.