General How Do I Come To Terms With It And What Can I Do?

[Deleted member 19035]

:'( I do not want her to go.

 

[Tinyflame]

I'm sorry FuzzyBear. :cry:

My whole life I've had to do what amethist says above. It is very hard. When you love someone it helps them to have your encouragement to fight. But also your blessing to let go, your assurance to them everything will be all-right. Sometimes it's too hard to keep fighting. She would benefit from you not blaming her (I know you're not, not the proper word, I mean only respectfully unspeakable grief plus horror plus panic plus fear) for not being able to fight any longer.

I'm sorry for having to say that, I know what hurt and pain that can cause. :( It is an unfathomable grief. :cry:

We have only today as our journey, that even approximates guaranteed. I hope and do pray somehow you will have many more days. You must be a rock, and gentle and honest with your children. Think of caring for them as caring for her. Their world is collapsing, it will help them to have an anchor. That doesn't mean they need to be entirely shielded from what you feel. You are feeling the same, the difference being you understand the gravity and the implications, and know your sorrow and fear. But for them, it is their world, and they can think of questions and have other fears (from a child's mind), that adults around are unaware of. They need you. You're all in the same ship tossed on the sea, as it were.

I'm so sorry. ((((((Hugs))))) .

 

[Charmedone]

Hey gorgeous one, dry your tears I'm not going anywhere just yet. The doctors (most of them) in the UK talk out of their arses! They don't understand and so slap a label 'terminally ill' on, fine by me means they leave me the hell alone!!

Hugs I love you fuzzy. I'll fight to stay here with you. Its going to take time for me to get well and I need you to be strong for our children.

So proud of you for coming here and getting your feelings out! I love you so much!!

 

[MomOfTwo]

:'( I do not want her to go.

I am so sorry.. my heart breaks for you. I can't imagine your grief or your children's. My husband worked with a fellow that lost his wife and they had two young girls (age 7 and 9)

Your children are so much a part of your wife and from what you said are so loved by her and she would only want you to make sure that the love she has for them will be remembered and honered by being the best dad they could ever ask for. There are no guarantees on how long our lives will be with our partners, children, friends etc. You can be your childrens protector and create a new sense of family without her physically but with her spiritually.

I am not sure if Charmedone is your spouse from the above post it would appear to be and if not please accept my apologies ahead of time...
Chamedone, I am sending you lots of positive thoughts on your recovery. You sound like a wonderful mom and I am sorry for all the tragedy you have had to deal with.

 

[Charmedone]

Chamedone, I am sending you lots of positive thoughts on your recovery.

Thank you for being so kind :) my family mean the world to me.

 

[MomOfTwo]

my family mean the world to me.

Your welcome. I am sure you mean the absolute world to them and so many children that come from 'normal' parents do not have that sort of love. You can be abused and beaten as a child but not repeat that behaviour and have children that thrive. You are a blessing to them and to your husband. They probably have learned more from your experience and parenting then what it takes some people to learn in a lifetime. Your children will learn compassion, courage, empathy, unconditional love and even if your time ends to be short with them it will leave a lifetime impression.

 

[Deleted member 19035]

They need you. You're all in the same ship tossed on the sea, as it were.

Thank you. Your reply is thoughtful. It feels just as you describe it, our world is upside down right now.

((((((Hugs)))))

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I love you fuzzy.

I love you more princess!

Your children are so much a part of your wife and from what you said are so loved by her and she would only want you to make sure that the love she has for them will be remembered and honered

They love her more than anything. She loves them so much. Everything she has done is for the children. The children are her world.

so many children that come from 'normal' parents do not have that sort of love.

They are everything to us. I just hope that I am enough for them when princess is not here.

 

[Deleted member 19035]

Princess arrived here safely. It has been so hectic. The children have been keeping me busy. Princess has been given new hope. They have a plan and if it works she will live.

Princess has been playing games a bit when she has not been sleeping. She stopped talking altogether, refused to respond to anything and she has been very emotional. It is hard.

 

[JustBe]

Good to hear an update Fuzzy. Hang in there she Loves you and the children and will fight.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh Charmedone, I'm sorry, I didn't know it was you, well feared whomever it reffered to. :(

This is wonderful news! You guys can make it. :inlove: It helps so much to have everything (you FuzzyB and the children) to fight for.

I don't believe people go a moment sooner than what is determined. It doesn't matter what the prognosis.

I agree with Momof2 and MO above.

Big hugs, :hug: , xoxoxox. I'll keep saying them, too. One day at a time. :hug:

 

[Deleted member 19035]

Princess has her therapist jumping through hoops and running in circles. No one is sure of anything right now. I hate not knowing how she is. They done some brain scans today and an eye test. The results are worrying. :( Princess has everyone baffled.