This might be a bit long so bear with me a bit. I am new here and I am not allowed access to other areas so hopefully people will reply to me here and help me out, or rather, help my friend out.
The situation is like this: So my friend, Grace, has had this episode years way back where basically her skin condition was ruined by contaminated makeup brushes. She's always been bothered by her current skin condition to the point that she has really low self esteem and told me that she's considered suicide before because to her, the damage to her skin is irrevocable. She blames herself for not taking any action to the makeup artist for doing this to her skin. She blames her friend who introduced her to the makeup artist.
Her psychatrist has told her these are symptoms of PTSD but apparently according to her, the psychatrist isn't helping her out at all. He's not even interested in hearing her talk but insists on only giving her meds to take.
I don't know how to help her. We both have very different characters. I'm not the kind who likes to dwell on things and basically, I don't see the point of lamenting the past when obviously the past isn't going to come back anymore. I'd rather spend the time on how to make things better. She, on the other hand, is completely different. She finds it hard to let go of things. I remembered this one time when she broke up with her boyfriend, she took years to get over it (and she attributed the breakup to her skin condition, much as she attributes everything else bad in her life to her skin condition).
Because of how differently we think, I find it so hard to relate to her problem. Yes her skin isn't perfect, but it really isn't as bad as she thinks it is but she can't seem to take in what I said. She has this perception that she looks disfigured BUT SHE DOESN'T, not even the least bit. I don't know how to get to her!
I want so badly to help her. I want my old bubbly, man-crazy friend to come back and I don't know how to make her come back. I'm so bad at talking I sometimes worry if she will interpret my silence as agreement to how horrible her skin is.
It'd be nice to hear some feedback from you guys. Thanks in advance!
The situation is like this: So my friend, Grace, has had this episode years way back where basically her skin condition was ruined by contaminated makeup brushes. She's always been bothered by her current skin condition to the point that she has really low self esteem and told me that she's considered suicide before because to her, the damage to her skin is irrevocable. She blames herself for not taking any action to the makeup artist for doing this to her skin. She blames her friend who introduced her to the makeup artist.
Her psychatrist has told her these are symptoms of PTSD but apparently according to her, the psychatrist isn't helping her out at all. He's not even interested in hearing her talk but insists on only giving her meds to take.
I don't know how to help her. We both have very different characters. I'm not the kind who likes to dwell on things and basically, I don't see the point of lamenting the past when obviously the past isn't going to come back anymore. I'd rather spend the time on how to make things better. She, on the other hand, is completely different. She finds it hard to let go of things. I remembered this one time when she broke up with her boyfriend, she took years to get over it (and she attributed the breakup to her skin condition, much as she attributes everything else bad in her life to her skin condition).
Because of how differently we think, I find it so hard to relate to her problem. Yes her skin isn't perfect, but it really isn't as bad as she thinks it is but she can't seem to take in what I said. She has this perception that she looks disfigured BUT SHE DOESN'T, not even the least bit. I don't know how to get to her!
I want so badly to help her. I want my old bubbly, man-crazy friend to come back and I don't know how to make her come back. I'm so bad at talking I sometimes worry if she will interpret my silence as agreement to how horrible her skin is.
It'd be nice to hear some feedback from you guys. Thanks in advance!
