How Do You Dress For T?

[Snowflake]

Well I work and take an hour off for therapy-so I have to dress nice/casual for work. But I find on therapy days I am more critical of how and what I choose sometimes trying it on. If it shows any part of my bra-it's a no go-find a Cami and layer -I never wear shorts-I wear a jacket a lot-I would love to wear a hooded sweatshirt but can't. In session I use a big pillow to cover me up more. I have even asked for a blanket to hide under. I have done worse too. Lol

 

[Crow]

I'm attempting to wear shorts to therapy today...first time in my 16 years. We'll see how it goes.

 

[Scandinavgirl]

I usually wear what I would put on at work. But as you, always pants and I prefer not to show much skin in general. I always think about how I want to present myself - I dont want it to seem like I have been dressing up.

 

[Nessa7]

This is probably weird, but putting on makeup is part of preparing myself for a therapy session. It lets me take a few minutes to let go of everything else that I need to do that day. I also think about anything that I want to tell my therapist about. I like feeling like I am prepared.

 

[Lola Nocheprieta]

This is probably weird, but putting on makeup is part of preparing myself for a therapy session. It lets me take a few minutes to let go of everything else that I need to do that day. I also think about anything that I want to tell my therapist about. I like feeling like I am prepared.

Not weird at all, @Nessa7. I do the same even though I don't wear a lot of make-up: powder the nose, fix the hair, touch up the lipstick .... I'm usually arriving from work, but like others have said, I'm super conscious of what I choose to wear that day. I also ruminate and rehearse things all the time (safety seeking behavior), especially therapy, and I like to feel pulled together and prepared both to "make a good impression" and to manage my anticipatory anxiety.

Do you think gender/sexual orientation has an impact? Not wanting too much exposed skin is not an issue for me, but maybe it would be if I had a male T (never have, although I've been to a couple male gynecologists. Meh.) I'm female, lesbian, married for many years, and was overwhelmingly abused by men, but also by girlfriends in my late teens/early 20s. My T is a straight, married woman with at least one young child. I really like my T a lot. I'm sure there's some transference going on on my part! She's younger than me, dynamic and enthusiastic as well as compassionate and insightful. She also gets my snarky, sarcastic sense of humor, laughs in the right places, knows when to be serious or call me on my shit if I'm hiding behind humor, but doesn't chide me for being irreverent. I also think she's attractive in a "young, funky and hip" kinda way (she can rock a boots and skirt ensemble!) I always want to look my best on therapy days -- whether that's dressed up for work (in higher education, business casual), or in paint-splattered leggings and t-shirt (I'm also an artist.) I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who thinks about this!

 

[Nessa7]

Not weird at all, @Nessa7. I do the same even though I don't wear a lot of...

I definitely think gender plays a role for me. I don't know that I would feel as comfortable doing it with a male therapist, just because I'd be concerned that he might not get it as easily as a female therapist. My T is female and also just a couple years older than me. I think that she might purposefully dress a little more fashionably and casually than her coworkers, because she specializes in younger female clients. It makes her more approachable.

She is also really generous with compliments, so it might be the perfect match of client and therapist.

 

[Brenton]

is it just me?
Does anyone else have issues with what they wear to therapy? I always dress very mo...

I'm so insecure I don't leave the house unless I'm well dressed. I haven't worn a T shirt or shorts outside in a long time.
I'm a writer so I can dress how I want, but I still dress it up on a daily basis.
I don't seek approval, I just don't want to be rejected; there is a difference, at least in my twisted mind.
I can stress over my wardrobe for hours if I don't watch it.