How Do You Forgive When You Never Get An Apology?

[Oce]

You asked the question: "How do you forgive when you never get an apology?"

For me it comes by "letting go." I don't mean letting go by letting them off the hook or minimizing their behavior towards me. I mean letting go by acknowledging to yourself that it happened to you and it's in the past. Letting go means I'll leave that baggage in the past and move forward today. In my mind, letting go means I've forgiven them.

 

[Nilepig]

This is just my opinion and how I would handle it, please consider it as just one suggestion for you...

If he is interested in someone else you might try to find out out what qualities he is attracted to that he thinks you are lacking. Ask if there is a problem with trust also so that you know if he feels free to talk to you about it.

Having said that, he might be somewhat dishonest in all of his relationship dealings....depending on how he was raised, and his feelings, thoughts, and beliefs about love and intimacy...I am sorry to say that none of that has anything to do with you really, except that you are involved with him and it is information you may need to know about him. This might increase your emotional intimacy..

Personally, I would tell him that his past behavior hurt you emotionally and mentally and ask for the apology that you want....it might then be forthcoming.

I hope this is just a 'bump in the road' and things smooth out for you both!!