Wow, just this thought is so amazingly positive.
You've made a strong connection, way to go!
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You've made a strong connection, way to go!
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Lady of Longbourn
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I have a new friend!
Beginning of the semester my English teacher told us and wrote on our schedule to "check your email at least once a week" because most students don't bother. So I wasn't holding my breath when I emailed them. One of the girls got back to at 2am and told me she would text me in the morning. I, rationally, figured probably late morning becasue she is sleeping so late.
She texted me! And we have been texting back and forth for about 2 hours now. Sometimes about school but mostly chatting. I am pretty sure the other girl hasn't checked her email yet. I am pretty sure (from what I can tell) that it isn't me and she is not flaky or two-faced. I'll probably say something to her tomorrow and I'll get her number then (probably make the guy who is always hitting on her jealous!)
I also noticed I am not rushing to answer her every text. I am more then willing to tell her I am busy, eating or going to bed etc. Maybe I am healthier now then when I was 19 and would answer right away at the expense of whatever I was doing (having a life for example, eating a meal). But I am already having boundaries is time around. Lately I really have felt older.
I think this is healthy. If I dropped everything to text someone back, then that would be the norm in the relationship. So the first time I didn't text them back within 5 minutes they would freak out (I see that here). I don't want her to place so much importance on a single text. I want it clear that I am not always available and will get back to her when I am able. This is something my husband and I do.
I actually think this is healthier. Those boundaries I feel are healthy and at the same time they are not me treating her like she doesn't matter. I prefer this and feel this is better foundation.
I remember at 19 when people used to text me all the time. At the time I felt attention was great but then I would never tell anyone I am busy or "Hey it's 3am and I have to work tomorrow." I was blowing my own health and well being off. I would drop everything thinking they would only value me if I showed them uninterrupted attention. But then it was too much, it all become to stressful and an entire relationship built on texts messages? Soon they were blowing me off probably becasue I was coming off as immature not enough subsistence.
Beginning of the semester my English teacher told us and wrote on our schedule to "check your email at least once a week" because most students don't bother. So I wasn't holding my breath when I emailed them. One of the girls got back to at 2am and told me she would text me in the morning. I, rationally, figured probably late morning becasue she is sleeping so late.
She texted me! And we have been texting back and forth for about 2 hours now. Sometimes about school but mostly chatting. I am pretty sure the other girl hasn't checked her email yet. I am pretty sure (from what I can tell) that it isn't me and she is not flaky or two-faced. I'll probably say something to her tomorrow and I'll get her number then (probably make the guy who is always hitting on her jealous!)
I also noticed I am not rushing to answer her every text. I am more then willing to tell her I am busy, eating or going to bed etc. Maybe I am healthier now then when I was 19 and would answer right away at the expense of whatever I was doing (having a life for example, eating a meal). But I am already having boundaries is time around. Lately I really have felt older.
I think this is healthy. If I dropped everything to text someone back, then that would be the norm in the relationship. So the first time I didn't text them back within 5 minutes they would freak out (I see that here). I don't want her to place so much importance on a single text. I want it clear that I am not always available and will get back to her when I am able. This is something my husband and I do.
I actually think this is healthier. Those boundaries I feel are healthy and at the same time they are not me treating her like she doesn't matter. I prefer this and feel this is better foundation.
I remember at 19 when people used to text me all the time. At the time I felt attention was great but then I would never tell anyone I am busy or "Hey it's 3am and I have to work tomorrow." I was blowing my own health and well being off. I would drop everything thinking they would only value me if I showed them uninterrupted attention. But then it was too much, it all become to stressful and an entire relationship built on texts messages? Soon they were blowing me off probably becasue I was coming off as immature not enough subsistence.
This just makes me cry, it goes right to my heart.
I looked back at your first post - Feb 16th. What an amazing story since then. How close you were to this then without knowing.
These will build the foundation for a lasting relationship of mutual give and take.
So happy for you:D:cool::hug:
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