How to do the work in the room.

[NightSky]

My sense is you might be pacing things too quickly, I know I need to take things slowly, give myself sp...

This is a really good point. My T is a talker. Which I ordinarily like because it takes the pressure off of me. But maybe that’s something I hide behind.

 

[EveHarrington]

I am just wondering how you connect with child parts or protector parts? For me it is just numbing and a...

I’m not sure how to get past numbing?

 

[Rose White]

@NightSky I very much have the same problem. Whenever I feel “strongest” is when this happens—when my adult parts are in charge. I walk out having said all I need to say and then I wail and feel self-loathing in the car—and it very much feels like my child parts feel side-lined, unappreciated, like they wish they could have come out and are now angry.

I agree with @Suzetig about not moving too fast—that resonates with me.

Also advice by @EveHarrington to assure protector parts that self can manage the children feels like something worth trying. Never thought about it that way, but now that I’m aware of it I can start experimenting.