I think there are different expectation for each category of people you had listed. It also probably varief for each person.
For me, I want my spouse to be caring and supportive, but not invasive: i mean, sometimes I do not want to see anyone around but my animals, and I expect my partner to understand this and not to take it personally. I also expect him to understand that I am not happy with my condition, and am taking efforts to fight over it, thus, I want him be on my side, not on my trouble's side. From me, I am trying to function as a caring, understanding, and supportive wife for him.
I want my immediate family, namely my mother and step-kids, just ask as few questions as possible, and do not ask about my feelings or my inner world. I just never answer such questions. I also expect them not to load me with their emotions and feelings, since, as it is easy to realize, I feel and express my feelings differently. From my side, I do not load them with my stuff, keeping it for myself and for people who understand.
From my co-workers, I expect to be treated first as a qualified professional, which I am, and respect me, just as I respect them. I also want tem to understand that although I jump funny if scared, this is not a reason to harrass me, since this is not fair to harass any person.
