How To Motivate Yourself?

[lostforgottensoul]

I do what I am able to do, and rearrange my schedule to the days that I feel functional.

God i wish i could do that. Im exhausted and crashed every day. It sucks. I wish i could just have one day were i felt a little better. It is better some days and worse others but its there every day.

ETA: Thanks for your support giz! :hug:

 

[Gadgie]

I am always more motivated to get out of bed in the summer time, as I know I can be outside all day pottering about in the garden, or maintaining the sheds.

It's the winter time when my motivation drops right down, as it's too cold or wet to be outside, and the days are so short, it's hardly worth getting up out of bed?

I find the winter time very depressing, and I'm always at my lowest ebb at that time of the year!

 

[Bloomy]

Ment coconut milk not oil :-) I dont like mackerel either, but I stopped caring as long as it aids to make organsim better. Eating can be like takin medicine for me. Might not like it, but you know itll help kinda thing. Also drink water with citron when in symptoms. And yes - frozen berries. They are more easy accesible and likewise healthy as fresh. It taste like mm mm mm mm m :p good morning :happy: I feel better just for drinkig it cause of flavour. Use the other smoothie recipies too

What motivates me on satur and sun is that Ive come to realisation that no matter how shitty I can feel it doesnt make a whole better that I stay in bed. I promise my self to be easy on me if I just so kindly go to natural sight with some good fresh air and a little walk according to how I am - slow, modest or quik or all.

And the good thing is - if you have the memories that this has worked and improved ones the motivation actually comes to do it again.
Thats why I said I dont belive in motivation. Cause in the begining there hasnt been for me. But It came eventually with the good memories.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Yeah @Gadgie, seasons are hard. I know its harder on most then it is me cause we dont have snow and have Evergreens that are never anything but green, we dont have leave change (which i loved to watch in KS) but though Fl doesnt have season change, theres the holidays, 3 of them back to back and then in the Spring is a trauma anniversary and is hard.

Ugh, if only this was just a small bit easier.

Ment coconut milk not oil

Oh, ok. That sounds yummy but expensive?

I lost 100 lbs back in '04-ish, by eating healthy. I know healthy isnt cheap. Though it should be cheapier than eating crap.

Also drink water with citron when in symptoms.

Citron? Never heard of it. Will look into that.

I dont like mackerel either, but I stopped caring as long as it aids to make organsim better. Eating can be like takin medicine for me. Might not like it, but you know itll help kinda thing.

Right! I hear ya!

I promise my self to be easy on me if I just so kindly go to natural sight with some good fresh air and a little walk according to how I am - slow, modest or quik or all.

Maybe a good "mind game" is to say that if its too much i'll stop. Or that i'll do this one chore and will do the 2nd if i can but wont if i cant. Being easy on yourself that way?

Usually when i start to dont stop and end up over doing it. Thoigh recently i cant seem to get myself started.

Sounds like its more of "cut the shit lost and get off your lazy ass".

 

[Bloomy]

I live well under power line in one of the most expensive countries so no I dont see this as expensive. I mean - I have to eat something. And part of this food like coconut milk is affordable. Beside I cant endure much more pain if I can do anything to avoid as much of it as possible.
Yes the mind game. I make deals with myself to get me going. Im easily fooled it seems so often it works.

If you reasd about food as medicine and how vitamins, minerals and such affect your body you will get the pic. Or I can come back and explain later.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

If you reasd about food as medicine and how vitamins, minerals and such affect your body you will get the pic.

Yep, got it! Like my mom said when we were little "hold your nose and eat it" lol.

 

[aut555]

Dragged my sorry akole to the gym which gave me more energy and now l can do more things. Also l actually sing stupid songs under my breath after l am done working out, so go figure.

Find something you have some passion for and schedule that as your reward for getting mundane crap done. Reading a good book, planting a garden, massage, online window shopping, a special movie.

Got to agree about the food, since l have gone healthy, my mood is more even, wether it's even meh or even blah, but less omg, why do l feel this way. And don't forget to praise yourself when you get stuff done. That's a accomplishment that should be recognized. Pat yourself on the back, and reward yourself. It's these little happy things that eventually overpower the "other blah yucky bad feelings".

 

[Friday]

I generally try & do 1 thing every day that's beyond my baseline. If I'm doing badly? That might mean eat. Or take a shower. If I'm doing well, that might mean my baseline includes getting up/ showering / eating / working out / another shower / going to work / doing the shopping / cleaning house. So my 1 "thing" may be having friends over for dinner, or getting a massage, or whatever. Whatever my baseline is... Plus one thing. That's all I have to do, today. 1 thing. Doesn't always happen. But I keep trying. Until eating once or twice a week turns into eating every day. Until exercising only to keep from putting a chair through the window turns into exercising every day.

That's also how I build my routines. I keep adding things I want to be doing every day. Until it's not a monumental effort to do them each day, but just normal/of course I did that!!! I always do that! <grin> Then I add something else.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Dragged my sorry akole to the gym which gave me more energy and now l can do more things. Also l actually sing stupid songs under my breath after l am done working out, so go figure.

Oh god i wish i could workout again. I adored the elipical. Id go every day and miss those endorphines. Chonic pain keeps me from walking very far these days.

Find something you have some passion for and schedule that as your reward for getting mundane crap done. Reading a good book, planting a garden, massage, online window shopping, a special movie.

Yeah, like what happened to my art? I wanted to learn how to make paracord stuff. Its all over pintrest and looks like it could keep me busy as what you can do is endless.

I generally try & do 1 thing every day that's beyond my baseline.

Thats a good idea but i have two baselines right now. My drag myself to work baseline and my crash on the weekends cant get up but to take the dog out baseline. I was trying to add a shower to the crash baseline but either i aint pushing enough (or giving into excuses) or that its too much for that baseline?

Im guessing you go off of the baseline thats problematic?

 

[aut555]

Great, maybe get that art idea going, that makes you smile, brings some sunshine inside. Just even getting some dumbbells (light) and a DVD or exercise youtube to follow along mindlessly but after a month you may feel a little better.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Great idea! Thanks @aut555!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I was just thinking back when i had 2 week days off. Normally first day off was therapist, other Drs, shopping. Thats normally all i could do physically but did it. 2nd day off was laundry and resting, maybe some light house work.

Now ive crashed. I think a lot of it is weekends off and i honestly dont have to. But some of it is whats going on in general as every day its harder and harder to push to go to work and just do every day things. But ive gotten in a rut and im not able to get out for some reason. Its not because i dont want to as i do. I think a lot of it is depression. I dont think i deserve to. A lot of it is how i feel physically but i do know already, as this happens on work days, the longer i push, eventually the better i feel. I usually feel better around lunch time at work.

Pain has gotten worse but i also know thats better when you move around.

So, i think theres a ton of layers to this. I like the 'add one thing' thing. I want to add, to my weekend baseline, to shower and get dressed as its depressing laying around in BO and i think that likely will get me out the door easier since im already showered and dressed, i might as well.

To my work day baseline, im not sure. Pick up a few hobbies that ive been eyeing. Not sure yet. But will think of one.

Thanks everyone for all of your replies! I know ive been quickly slipping down a depression dark hole but unsure of how to dig myself out so i appreciate all of your comments as they help a lot to know im not alone in all of this!