How To Stop Therapy

[kris]

So I want to quit therapy. I have decided that I just want to stop, so I cancelled all my appointments. Now my therapist calls me and he thinks I need to come in and discuss this. I don't want to I just want to move on, but he is insists that I should talk to him about being referred to someone else. That's not what I want, I have had enough of talking to people and don't care to go again.

What is the point of going in again just to talk about quitting? This is probably a sign I shouldn't quit...but I don't want to go again as I don't want him to talk me into continuing. I know it is my decision but just the things he says before have made me change my mind.

I have kept one appointment as of right now to go and talk about quitting, but I am in a great debate in my head about actually going or not. This all might sound like a big rambling post, sorry about that I have had a rough two weeks. Also, yes I am running away from therapy and from my problems I know that, but I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't really care to live but I know I cant/wont kill myself, I just have no desire to give a crap anymore about trying to better my life.

 

[Rumors]

Really sorry, Kris. It sounds like you have hit the preverbal brick wall. I am sure your mind is telling you to just quit and eff it but sometimes you need to have a cooling off period and really think about what your goals are in therapy and how to get there. The work is always hard, as I am sure you know but you are worth it! I can only hope that you are able to make a good choice for yourself and one that will help you find some peace! If I were to give you any advice it would be NOT to make a knee jerk decision. So what if you go back and talk to him? It isn't a waste of time bc perhaps you will make a decision based on something you have learned there. I also think you owe yourself the chance to listen.

Good luck! Sending you strength and good vibes! Hang in there!

 

[Delta62]

I am no expert, but I am going to state how I see this. There could be a variety of reasons why your therapist is calling you. At this moment, do you think your making a wise choice by quitting abruptly? By essentially stating you really don't care to live is a strong statement and canceled out what you just said after that. There's a strong possibility he wants to see how you are doing. Do you think you have met your goals in your treatment plan with him? What are your short term and long term goals for down the road?

 

[Springer80]

When my case got thrown out by the CPS (Criminal Prosecution Service) and it had taken years of work to get to that stage, I just couldn't face talking about it or any of the related stuff. I couldn't go, there wasn't the space left in my body to take any more. I walked out of therapy and didn't go back for about 18 months I think it was, I reckon I was in shock really. I'm not saying I recommend anything one way or the other but sometimes you just do what you feel and if things are too much then you react to them as best you can.

If you don't go back it's probably cos your just so fatigued by it at the moment. Take it easy on yourself, it's not a right/wrong decision. Your perfectly entitled to tell your therapist you've had a gut full and you need to try taking a break.

 

[Jlso111187]

I left therpey and have not gone back. But I didnt like who my insurence would cover 13 years ago. I am thinking about going back because it would be benifical to me. But I have to get in my head that I can do this and not all therpists are like the one I had. If you feel like you need a break you know you body better than anyone but make sure your mentally strong enough for it.

 

[intothelight]

Also, yes I am running away from therapy and from my problems I know that, but I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't really care to live but I know I cant/wont kill myself, I just have no desire to give a crap anymore about trying to better my life.

Kris,

Reading this, maybe you are just burned out and need a break to regroup, or maybe this is depression talking and it wouldn't be a good time to quit. If it is the depression, then keeping therapy sessions to work on dealing and getting through this phase might not be a bad idea.

But if it is time to take a break and regroup, then quitting and sorting out what you want isn't a bad idea either. I think that sometimes a person can get into a therapeutic rut where there aren't any clear cut goals and a person doesn't really know what they want to achieve. Therapy is expensive and without direction and the desire to move in a specific direction, it can be a waste of time and money.

Really, only you know where you are at and what is best for you. Be totally honest with yourself and make your decisions based on that.

Just my .02.

Debbie

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Sounds like you need a break.

What type of therapy are you doing?

I quit "talk" therapy over 2 years ago. I saw a neuro therapist for a year and a half, and now I'm therapy free.

I've considered going back, but considering I'd need an attachment disorder sensitive therapist, my restrictive insurance, and the fact that I live in a rural area, it's enough for me to continue to say "no thanks" to more therapy.

I don't think I'll ever go back to talk therapy. I need a boot camp to kick my arse into gear, and talking about problems only gets you so far.

Sorry for rambling.

 

[Nmarvitz]

I can totally relate. I've been doing therapy now for nearly two years and I've been hospitalized twice and I just haven't seen much of a change and to add more fun to it I have OCD on top of everything else.

I started going to therapy 3xs a week and now we are down to two and I wanted to drop to one and he doesn't think it's a good idea. I just got really overwhelmed with everything this past week and blew off both of my sessions this week. My therapist was not happy (and neither were my friends). My therapist just said that I needed to do what I thought was the correct decision for me. It was a bad idea and I shouldn't have done it. I'm so anxious about going back to see him after having blown him off this past week.

Thing is the only way to get better is to face everything head on. I hope you really think about what not going back to your therapist will mean to you in the long run. Ultimately it is your decision though. If you truly feel that you want to stop then just tell your therapist that. I also agree that you might just need a little break from therapy. It can be really intense what you talk about and sometimes I wonder if talking about (usually) the same thing over and over is truly helpful. Good luck.

 

[Loner]

I've taken multiple less than year long breaks in therapy to process and put into practice things I've learned before going back.

 

[Red Feather]

I think you know what is best and it seems like you are so against therapy for some reason that it would not help you. Maybe you need to feel some freedom in regards to how you take care of yourself and in regards to deciding what is best for you. A therapist is there for someone to help them on their own path and wish to recovery. If the wish isn't there than just take a break. I had the same. I had to quit a therapist, and I know it was not only because she was just not good for me, but because I needed to go through that process of finding what was best for me.

 

[kris]

What is best is to stay in therapy actually. I think... I don't know! It probably is but I am so frustrated with things. There isn't anything wrong with my therapist. Not sure what to do, I just feel stuck and afraid. Have been working on trauma related things and the more and more I work on that the more I want to quit. It seems for every trauma that I remember and work on 3 more pop up while working on the initial one.

Its like there is no damn end in site to the trauma, I didn't remember or realize the half of what I have been through. Therapy has helped but I am so frustrated and confused and fed up with the additional memories that although I know it has helped and I have coping skills I just want to say f*** it all and not bother.