How Would You Most Want People To Support You?

[Sighs]

I also dislike when people give me advice without listening to my issue beforehand

Oh! Yes! This!

I used to work with a girl who was always jumping in to "solve" problems before the other person had had a chance to give her even 10% of the information she needed. Annoying in a work context - :banghead::banghead::banghead: when it was in a personal context.

 

[jaccat]

I just want to be treated like everybody else. I've been told I am different all my life. I'm tired of different.

Only problem is I don't know what 'everybody else' is either...

 

[Deleted member 28812]

Thanks for this thread!

 

[The Albatross]

I don't want people to support me at least not very often. I want to stand on my own two feet, squarely and solidly. It could happen. "What I want from people" though is a bit of a quagmire for me. I don't like where my brain goes when I think that way.

 

[Sandstone]

I thought I was going to be alone in this, but It looks as though I'm part of the club. I want people to leave me alone. Silence and quiet and not having to account for anything is what I want.

I don't know if that is what I need, though. Perhaps what I need is a bit of a push, but only a very gentle one from someone who wil catch me if that push throws me off balance

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

I don't know if that is what I need, though. Perhaps what I need is a bit of a push, but only a very gentle one from someone who wil catch me if that push throws me off balance

I like that statement. I think, for me, it's a balance of being alone and not having to account for anything and those gentle pushes to help lead me back towards the life I want to live.

 

[moonbeam]

Don't offer me advice you read on the internet (like oh you should cut out lemons from your diet). Don't utter the phrase "everything happens for a reason." Or if life gives me lemons tell me a story of your friends-sisters-cousins-coworker who died of lemons.

Respect when I want to be alone. And be there when I don't. And remember that sometimes being supportive is watching b-rate monster movies in our pajamas.

 

[Tinyflame]

"The Blob" or "Attack of the Killer Tomatoes" @moonbeam ? ;)

 

[cupfish]

I want people to allow me to be myself. I put on a public face at work...with my kids....even with my husband more than I wish. I desperately want my siblings to understand and acknowledge that my path is not like theirs and to include me again in the family dynamic in a way that works for ME, authentically. I want a big fat hug from the people who share my day because this is an incredibly lonely disease.

 

[garden]

this is an incredibly lonely disease.

It is! I am used to being alone, but I have never felt more lonely than I have since I've been symptomatic. During periods in my life when I was more functional and had little to no symptoms I did not feel this alone, yet back then I was more alone than I am today. It's mentally isolating to be in ptsdville.

 

[cupfish]

Right Lewa? Recognizing CPTSD turned my life from a brittle but sort-of-normal reality to an isolated scaredy-cat who spends WAY too much time managing my diseased brain. There has to be a way to be part of the world without being hurt by the world.

 

[anonymous]

I just want to be accepted. I haven't found any one or any place that actually accepts me.