Hello everyone. This is my first post. I have been struggling for over a week now over the break-up. I am a 46 year old divorced mother. I was married for 20 years to a man that hardly ever talked and did not believe in me.
I met my Marine (I'll call him Vince) after I moved out of my home I shared with my ex and moved into an apartment.
Vince and I met in the exercise room at the apartments and hit it off immediately. We developed a nice friendship. Every time we ran into each other we would talk non stop. After several months I called him and invited him over one night. This led to a 4 month long affair that was the most beautiful experience I've ever had with a man.
My ex and I share custody of our kids and Vince shares custody of his son, so every moment we both did not have our children we spent together.
These are the facts:
I learned Vince has a prosthetic leg after becoming intimate with him (never knew before).
Vince was in Afghanistan for 14 years
When he lost his leg he was in a coma in Germany for 11 months
Vince has recurring nightmares
Vince and I never spent the night together (he always made excuses)
Although Vince lives 3 doors down from me I was never invited to his house, we always stayed at mine.
Vince started out the relationship by telling me that he can't have a relationship because his mental state was not well enough yet and we had an understanding that we were meeting for companionship.
When Vince came over we talked for hours and hours and would even stop during sex to talk some more. After sex he never just left. We would lay for hours and just talk some more.
He told me that he hopes we are together for a long, long time but it is in God's hands.
During this 4 month period he shared very intimate memories from his childhood and thousands of stories of his life - he opened up to me on so many levels.
The sex was so tender and loving and beautiful.
I fell in love hard.
The reason he broke it off with me was because after receiving a text from him wishing me and my kids (our children were never introduced to each other) a great weekend I responded with wishing him and his son a great weekend too. He replied that he did not have his son that night. I decided to surprise him and knock on his door to give him a quick hug and kiss. He did not answer the door and the next morning I received an angry text from him telling me that I was too much for him and that he can't see me anymore.
He told me (which I believed but now don't think is true) that his prosthetic does not come off and is connected and programmed by satellites. I think he was embarrassed to spend the night because he did not want me to see him without his leg and he probably had the leg off when I knocked on the door. IDK, but I triggered something in him when I went over there.
His text was so angry and then he called me a few days later and was very rude and harsh to me on the phone.
I could tell my his actions and his words to me at the end of our relationship that he was falling in love with me. He is Italian and he would speak to me in Italian and call me his lover. He was also texting and calling me all the time and spending more time with me than usual.
I am blown away that he just dumped me like I was nothing. I cry all the time and I am so confused and hurt. I just don't understand. And yes, I know lots of you will possibly think he had another girl at the house and that is why he didn't answer. Like I said, we live 3 doors away from each other. The playground my children and I are always at is right next to his house. I am pretty positive that he was not seeing anyone other than myself.
I met my Marine (I'll call him Vince) after I moved out of my home I shared with my ex and moved into an apartment.
Vince and I met in the exercise room at the apartments and hit it off immediately. We developed a nice friendship. Every time we ran into each other we would talk non stop. After several months I called him and invited him over one night. This led to a 4 month long affair that was the most beautiful experience I've ever had with a man.
My ex and I share custody of our kids and Vince shares custody of his son, so every moment we both did not have our children we spent together.
These are the facts:
I learned Vince has a prosthetic leg after becoming intimate with him (never knew before).
Vince was in Afghanistan for 14 years
When he lost his leg he was in a coma in Germany for 11 months
Vince has recurring nightmares
Vince and I never spent the night together (he always made excuses)
Although Vince lives 3 doors down from me I was never invited to his house, we always stayed at mine.
Vince started out the relationship by telling me that he can't have a relationship because his mental state was not well enough yet and we had an understanding that we were meeting for companionship.
When Vince came over we talked for hours and hours and would even stop during sex to talk some more. After sex he never just left. We would lay for hours and just talk some more.
He told me that he hopes we are together for a long, long time but it is in God's hands.
During this 4 month period he shared very intimate memories from his childhood and thousands of stories of his life - he opened up to me on so many levels.
The sex was so tender and loving and beautiful.
I fell in love hard.
The reason he broke it off with me was because after receiving a text from him wishing me and my kids (our children were never introduced to each other) a great weekend I responded with wishing him and his son a great weekend too. He replied that he did not have his son that night. I decided to surprise him and knock on his door to give him a quick hug and kiss. He did not answer the door and the next morning I received an angry text from him telling me that I was too much for him and that he can't see me anymore.
He told me (which I believed but now don't think is true) that his prosthetic does not come off and is connected and programmed by satellites. I think he was embarrassed to spend the night because he did not want me to see him without his leg and he probably had the leg off when I knocked on the door. IDK, but I triggered something in him when I went over there.
His text was so angry and then he called me a few days later and was very rude and harsh to me on the phone.
I could tell my his actions and his words to me at the end of our relationship that he was falling in love with me. He is Italian and he would speak to me in Italian and call me his lover. He was also texting and calling me all the time and spending more time with me than usual.
I am blown away that he just dumped me like I was nothing. I cry all the time and I am so confused and hurt. I just don't understand. And yes, I know lots of you will possibly think he had another girl at the house and that is why he didn't answer. Like I said, we live 3 doors away from each other. The playground my children and I are always at is right next to his house. I am pretty positive that he was not seeing anyone other than myself.
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