General Husband is over the trauma, now it’s mine

[Selfish]

Hi, found this site today after my husband disclosed to me some pretty alarming issues from his past. I feel totally lost and wrong and mad at myself as he has gotten over his trauma, but I am extremely shaken from hearing that he has experienced these things. He doesn’t want to talk about it because he has had years to process what has happened but it is all so new to me. I can’t talk to him because I feel like it would diminish his experience and I have no place talking about it anyway. We have an amazing relationship, married for 6 years, the past hasn’t ruined anything for us but now I can’t stop thinking about what he shared with me. I can’t get out of bed and I can’t stop crying and obsessing over it. It’s hard to talk about because I don’t want to take anything away from survivors but I do t know where to turn. Thank you for listening.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Give yourself some time to process. You just heard that your love was traumatized, it's only natural that it's gonna be upsetting. You may even feel anger. It's very normal to feel this way.

Do you have things that help you de-stress?