I’m not dating someone new and it feels wonderful

[EveHarrington]

Yes, I’m not dating someone new and it does indeed feel wonderful!

We’ve known each other for 7 months now and he’s been quite flirty with me for the last few months. He also visited me almost every day when I was in the hospital. I had a feeling that he liked me from almost the beginning but I thought perhaps I was reading too much into it all.

He’s been quite supportive of me through this recent downturn. It’s nice having someone who accepts me as I am without wanting to fix me. It’s nice having his support.

We spent much of Saturday together, and the topic of “us” came up. Neither one of us wants to lose the friendship and support aspect, so we agreed to take it day by day and just stay “friends” for now....note “friends” in quotes as there’s no denying the feelings between us. ;) It’s nice being able to just keep it between us for now....at least in theory, lol. People in the hospital assumed he was my boyfriend, my husband, my special someone, based on how we interacted.

So for now, it feels good to just live in the moment and enjoy whatever it is that we have between us. It’s nice to spend time with someone who understands and doesn’t pressure me for more.

I like not dating someone new. :)

 

[PreciousChild]

Yes, I’m not dating someone new and it does indeed feel wonderful!

We’ve known each other fo...

I think that's a big deal! Someone got to know you and learned to love you. It's not based just looks, or the job you have, or anything extrinsic but based on who he saw come to light in his interactions with you. I know that would give me a sense of trust and affirmation. That's so great.

On the flip side, I was reading blogs about break-ups to help me get through mine, and one blogger said exactly how I'm feeling now - someone fell in love with me, got to know me, and decided...nah. :dead: I'm really okay though. I'm learning that it takes two in a relationship, and I can affirm my own sense of self whether that other person with his own needs and dysfunctions can give me that or not.

In any case, in the ebbs and flows of life, I hope you can appreciate getting support and love from someone who knows you. I hope that helps you to continue to build up the trust you have in others, which I think many of us here don't have enough of.

 

[EveHarrington]

I think that's a big deal! Someone got to know you and learned to love you. It's not based just l...

It feels good that he says that he cares about me. I guess we’re both a bit jaded when it comes to the L word. He doesn’t like it because his ex used to say “if you loved me you would _____” and my ex didn’t know love from lust so that blindsided me to the point where i don’t really accept it when someone says they love me. I follow the actions, not the words, and his actions show that he does indeed care.

I am learning to accept care from others and it feels really good.

 

[420kitty]

I'm so excited for you! The pressure of dating is what sucks. It's nice to hear you found someone that makes you happy. :)

 

[Strangelongtrip]

This is wonderful! No pressure, that’s great. It sounds like you two have a great connection too. Wishing you the best!

 

[EveHarrington]

Lol.

I told him that he’s my guy, but we still won’t use the “R” word. As far as the rest of the world is concerned, we are just friends. ;)