I Am Ugly

[ugliestgirlinschool]

My mother hated me ,too! She said she wished I'd never been born.

 

[Friday]

I'm ugly as sin. It really doesn't bother me, most of the time. Used to a long time ago, but come to find? Men really don't give a damn... And that's what my hangup was, thinking I needed to be pretty to be liked, wanted, desirable. Again, come to find? Nope.

What does bother me can be surgically fixed. Which is a simple thing in the greater scheme. Time & money. That's all. If I didn't prioritize other things first, I'd have taken care of what irritated me cosmetically ages ago.

Some people should never be parents. Hating your kid because they're ugly? Excuse me while my eyes roll so far back into my head I risk a seizure. That ain't a parent. No way, no how. That's an abusive POS in a parent costume, maybe.

 

[Ronin]

Well Ugliestgirl, if that's why she hates you, she better looks at who's faar more uglier than you to give birth in the first place. :)

No, for real now: You're not ugly, that's what losers say to people to make them feel bad about their beauty and reflects only on the speaker, nobody else.

Haters don't get a say. Listed as parents or not, haters is all they are, and you're worth so much better than listening to lies like that.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

What she is saying is not true, thats for sure. Now, another question is why would such a person ever have a child, it's simply awful.
She is just a simple minded hater, and probably dissapointed with herself to that point of scapegoating you.
I'm really sorry.

 

[Rumors]

I really wish someone could define ugly as it pertains to people. It's never what is on the outside (and I refuse to write your guest name) most beautiful girl in school.... In my opinion, your mom is ugly for even saying anything so cruel to a beautiful child.
If there is a councilor at your school, please reach out to them and let them know what is going on. You need to talk with someone about what is going on. My guess is that calling you ugly is not the only thing going on at home.
You are NOT ugly!!!

 

[J_trustno1]

Hi Girl, I'm sorry that you feel this way about yourself because of your mother and I refuse to use your guest name because that's what someone else thinks! Now, let's get to the reality of it, you are not ugly like everyone else have said it here because you are enteralizing all that hate and toxic behavior of your mother. Do you know who is actually in reality? ?? Its your mother NOT you. The reason why I am saying this is because I have been hated by my own father for being a girl, made fun of height, been called dumb and Yes I have been called Ugly by my relatives and been bullied at school. However, I've come to discover that I'm not ugly at all but this realization took a long term therapy, compassion and good support system. Trust me, you are not ugly and what you are feeling is your mothers own self hate that she's imposing on you. Please seek some counseling at school and spend minimal time with that crazy woman! Hope you feel well. Feel free to PM me, I'm more than happy to listen and try helping.

 

[RussH]

Dear young lady (I will not use the name ugliestgirl) I just want to say that physical beauty is a very subjective concept. Personal appearance says nothing about the true beauty of a person.

So let me ask you; who are you as a person? Are you someone who shows kindness to others when it has not been shown to you? Are you someone who is more interested in the person you meet, and not just how they look?

Do you endeavor to make each person you meet lives a little bit better?
What I am asking is who is the person behind the face? It is that person who will ultimately be seen as being ugly or beautiful.
I suspect it will be the ladder.

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

Just because someone calls us ugly doesn't make it true. Ugly is a subjective statement and is often used to hurt someone whether the person who states it believes it or not. People who are jealous of someone's beauty may call them ugly just to make them think that and to hurt them.

If a hundred people called you ugly, it still wouldn't make it true because ugly is neither true nor false. It's what you do with that information that will count. If my mother told me that she wished I had never been born, I would have to think that is one horrifying for a mother to say. Do I really want to believe a woman who says that?

And even if you believe you are the ugliest person alive, let's start by listing out the positives. Look at all the support you just got from people who don't even know you. You matter. Every one of these people believes exactly what they stated. You matter. And I believe you matter to and I would love for you to respond with at least one positive statement about who you are as a person. For example, for myself, I would say a positive thing about me is that I love to write and believe I am fairly good at it.

 

[Queen Boudica]

My mother hated me too, she was evil, just like any mother who hates their child. I can't use that name that calls you ugly as well because no-one is ugly.

Throughout high school and beyond I felt like i was the most hideous ugly girl ever. I used to think any boy looked at me it was because I was so hideous, they couldn't believe how ugly I was. Have you ever seen pictures of Celine Dion when she was a teenager, not the most attractive. Look at her now.

What I did is to focus on the few things I thought were good. Very few people are perfect all over. Most people work out their most attractive parts and highlight them and detract from the other bits. My eyes, I used makeup to enhance them. I got a proper hairdresser (my mother used to cut my hair hideously so I looked like a boy), and I had my hair styled to suit my face and I coloured it and use good hair products. I had facial hair, suffered with that so much most of my life, so self conscious wow, laser therapy now, miracle. For clothes find colours that match your complexion and cuts that flatter. I had no boobs, flat chested as anything, gel bras are amazing. I had to wear glasses. Contact lenses. Nothing wrong with glasses but for me I was bullied so much and I do have good eyes so I wanted to make the most of those, so contact lenses worked for me. You could go to a department store and get advice about make up etc. You might not be into make-up. I loved it when I was a teenager and it really helped me. And you can do a lot with make-up to shape your face.

I still have hideous bits like I have virtually no eyebrows and I have to use eyebrow pencil, my feet are revolting, but I don't focus on those.

That is one of the most important things don't stare too much at the parts you think are ugly, they really aren't ugly, just if you stare too much and focus on that feature you start to see ugly. Everyone has ugly bits though. God the male dangly bits are rather hideous if you keep staring at them. All those magazine pictures are airbrushed, none of those people look like that in real life, they all have ugly bits they don't like and cover them up.

That's all the advice I can give about what helped me, when I thought I was the most hideous school girl. And I wasn't and neither are you. I could talk about personality and kindness and humour, but to me, when I was feeling so hideous, just finding ways to look a bit better helped. I don't know whether that helps.

 

[Ed Norton]

I don't really have anything to really add as far as what was said by others. I just wanna say that it's truly heartbreaking to read your post and even the username which I can't bring myself to write either.

:hug: if you accept