I Dgaf About Your Triggers

[Unido]

(DGAF = Don't Give A f*ck for those in other countries)

You come at my child I will break your jaw and your ribs, call the police, and have you arrested. You can sob story to the police & the courts about your f*cking PTSD triggers. Which are not an excuse to lash out and hurt others. They are a reason to learn self control. Defending the child you were attacking, on the other hand, is an excuse.

Oh but poor you??? Nobody understands you?

Bitch, please. I have PTSD, not that you know it. And I am way the hell more violent than you. You picked the wrong f*cking person to whine excuses at. "Can't" control yourself? "But he triggered me" ? Bullshit. You're still f*cking playing the victim when you have become an abuser. Just because you were a victim doesn't mean you are always a victim. Check yourself. Elsewhere. Stay the f*ck away from me and my kid with your bullshit. And no way in hell will I try to talk the DA into dropping charges for your child abusing ass because you "have PTSD & can't control what you do when triggered". Yes. You can. Learn it.

I don't give a f*ck what your triggers are. They ain't my responsibility, and they definitely aren't a child's. They are your responsibility.

Lovely convo this morning. Keepin it in the anon forum, instead of anger or my diary, since her case is still active, and my PTSD has jack shit to do with it. Snort. Trying to play on my sympathy? Ain't gonna work, when I've got empathy instead. She may have everyone else walking on eggshells around her, convinced it's their fault if she hurts them. Nope. No f*cking way am I even gonna consider playing that BS game.

 

[Okap]

because you "have PTSD & can't control what you do when triggered".

When I hear that kind of talk from someone, the first thing I wonder is whether or not they REALLY have PTSD. There are a lot of people in this world who look for and use the "flavor of the moment" excuse as an opportunity to get a free pass. Some of them probably qualify for a diagnosis, but it's something other than "PTSD". But, maybe that's just me, being paranoid. (again)

I hope your kid is ok!

 

[Unido]

(OP here) :) He's good. Incident was a few years ago, but courts here move sloooooow. So old things get brought up from time to time (lol in real life even!, and not just in my head, which on the bright side is a nice change I suppose).

Honestly, if she'd owned up at any point these past few years that she was out of control then, owned fault, but had been taking steps to get under control? Instead of the same old song and dance about how it's everyone else's fault, and she's the victim? I still couldn't drop charges, the courts filed them, not me... But I understand dark pasts & regrets.

 

[Pusur]

Frankly, if a person has committed an unwarranted act of violence (to differentiate from a warranted act of violence) then I really couldn't care less if they are mentally ill. My mother beat me savagely and screamed bloody murder in my face about how I deserved to be hanged just because I'm bisexual. But obviously she is the one who deserves all the sympathy because she's "mentally ill", right?! No. An atrocity is an atrocity.

 

[Zizuba]

If they are pressuring or even politely asking you to drop the charges, tell the DA. If it gets bad enough and the DA is fired up enough, they can charge them with witness tampering which is a high level felony in most states. They surely have a defense attorney who has told them to get their mouth shut, and this may be another opportunity to learn self control.

Sorry you are going through this.

 

[Uzo]

Which are not an excuse to lash out and hurt others. They are a reason to learn self control.

This is perfectly phrased. Love it.