cherryblossomgirl
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**Support**
I can relate, have difficulty with this too. Also with trusting my perceptions.
Practi...
I tried.The first time I found out I had trauma I opened up myself to some although I disclosed myself to some people and I developed a method for self-defense to protect myself from getting that hurt again. Regardless whether it was or right. If they're not the one who went through hell and experienced trauma, they would not know how terrifying that could be to us.And I certainly will do anything I can not to go back there.
I know we people with trauma have lots of imperfections and flaws with the symptoms and everything and as a perfectionist I put pressures on myself a lot and I've given up to do it to myself although yes I do make fun of myself sometimes just because that's how I cope with it. I'm not hurting anyone and I don't get hurt if I make fun of myself. I think that after you'e gone through some terrible things, humor can be a form of medications to one self. And sometimes you have to learn to laugh at yourself for what life has to bring. Eat your pride a little bit. And that's just how I deal with my perfection obsession at myself that things get out of control sometimes, but the biggest challenge for perfectionist is not to lose control when they lose the "remote control".
And I'm certainly not a follower for "Hurt people hurt people". If that's what accepted, no wonder we have so many people seeking support and help in a place like this or even therapists in real life. To me, for people with trauma, there's no other medication that can heal us except love.